how should i approach this girl

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  1. rnikec

    rnikec JINGMAO

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    Ok so I've been recently sitting next to this girl in one of my classes.. petite cute brunette:wiggle:.. so far we haven't really talked about personal stuff, only class stuff and how to solve a problem bullshit.

    This semester is about to end.. and I know I'm a pussy for not approaching her sooner... is it awkward if i ask her to hang out or catch a movie?
    Since the semesters about to end, should I try asking her to have a study session for finals?
    I'm not suave or a guy who can swoon the ladies, but i have a good personality and I'm a down to earth guy.

    Right now I have no number and only her name.. Would facebooking her and sending a message asking to study sometime this weekend be stalker/creepy? or should i just ask her after class monday?
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  2. Cobra Commander

    Cobra Commander OT Supporter

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    Don't ask her to a movie, that is a really bad idea for a first date..it gives you absolutely no time to get to know her / talk.

    Ask her out for coffee if she drinks it, if not then maybe grab a bite to eat somewhere. Oh and FB her isn't stalkerish, i get random adds all the time.

    Ask her in person first, it will mean alot more to her and show her your confidence.
     
  3. kopetzki

    kopetzki Banned

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    just ask her, be direct, make your intentions clear, don't say you wanna study when you really wanna go on a date otherwise you might risk getting friendzowned.
     
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    kopetzki Banned

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    and :werd: on the movie, bad idea for a first date, go somewhere where both of you can talk.
     
  5. Rurikar

    Rurikar OT Supporter

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    Movies are fine if you suck at talking to girls, more so if you go to dinner AFTER the movie (ie goto an earlier show). This way you have something to talk about.
     
  6. peoplescar

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    do it in person dude, develop a better relationship over studying. ask her if she'd like to go out. never know if yo don't try right :dunno:
     
  7. just_another_on

    just_another_on New Member

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    Ask her if she wants to go camping
     
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    My nga :h5:
     
  10. D7

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    ask her in person, and remember to SMILE when you ask her
     
  11. knucks

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    Honestly, if you're concerned about how to approach, I think you should tell her that the two of you should study together.
     
  12. rnikec

    rnikec JINGMAO

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    is it weird to just ask a girl if shes single during a conversation?
     
  13. Memopad

    Memopad OT Supporter

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    :rofl:

    Maybe. I think a better way to find out if she's single is to ask her out for a drink or bite to eat or something and then see what the reaction is. Kills like 15 birds in one stone.
     
  14. RuskeR

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    Do it in person, and be upfront about it. Just keep it somewhat casual like getting lunch, or coffee.

    Regardless what she says you'll be happier with yourself that you gave it your best shot instead of let the opportunity pass you by. Go for it!
     
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    you and smiles.
     
  16. ForgottenSpiral

    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    Use a moaning pharaoh. Wait that's not right. Catch her until you chase her. Fuck, I give up.
     
  17. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    :bigthumb:

    that's closer to the shock & awe approach than the usual timid guy who tries to get "hints" because he's too cowardly to put himself on the line.
     
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    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    You want to be able to interact, even if you do suck at it.

    For that reason movies are not fine.
     
  19. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    Nice advice, Memopad. :hsugh:

    Consider the possible outcomes:

    1. She goes to get something to eat with you. Maybe she wants to be friends; maybe she's interested in you physically. You don't know for sure :ugh2:

    2. She doesn't get something to eat with you. Maybe she is interested but busy. Maybe she's just not interested and is indirectly blowing you off. You don't know for sure :ugh2:

    It's "better" to be an indirect little bitch because she can't reject you if you never put your interest out there :ugh2:

    SACK THE FUCK UP

    :)
     
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  20. T-R-T

    T-R-T New Member

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    what are you talking about?
     
  21. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    sry edited

    do you also think it's better to beat around the bush? :nuts:
     
  22. knucks

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    ask her out yet?
     
  23. crown royal

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    better to beat in the bush.
     
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    of course not but i don't consider asking her out to be beating around the bush. asking her if she's single isn't direct either. maybe she is single but not interested in him or maybe she's not single but she is interested.
     

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