I honestly don't understand how someone can be so completely self-centered and ignorant My Sister and I don't see eye to eye and have spoken twice since April, only because our Grandfather was having surgery and she didn't think anyone had told me (I live across the country). She and I had a HUGE blow out last April because she found out her 15yo son wants to move in with me. Despite the fact that he approached me and I then told him he needed to talk to his Mom, she blames me for his wanting to leave her house (he's now living with his Dad whom I talk to ). You can't approach my Sister about anything she might not like. You can't joke around with her in any way that she might take offense to. In arguments, she always has to win even when she's blatantly wrong. The latest in her self-centered centric statements/opinions came in the form of a conversation she was having with our parents. She literally told our parents that the only reason I came at the end of last March and into April was specifically to ruin her Birthday Never mind the fact that my parents chose the dates for my trip because they paid for the plane tickets. Oh the fact that in the time of my being there, my nephew (the one already mentioned), Mom, the Sister in question AND our Dad all had Birthdays (there's 4 Birthdays in a two week stretch). Not to mention that the night before I arrived, she claimed her daughter had some sort of "issue" that prevented her from going to school and had her daughter stay at our parents. Then left her there for two more days before I finally had had enough. My niece spends the night all the time with my parents, she's with them a lot and I don't mind that, but it was also preventing MY daughter from having any one-on-one time with her Grandparents. My niece gets one-on-one time all the time, was it really too much to ask that MY daughter have some as well? Especially when we hadn't seen them in a year and a half? Oh, and my niece was perfectly fine. Any suggestions on how to handle this? I'm on the verge of telling my parents that I simply don't even want to come out now because of her. And my parents refuse to fly out here (they're older, have some health issues that makes long flights like that very uncomfortable for them). I love my parents and I want my daughter to have a relationship with them, but it's sooo stressful to even call them anymore in case my Sister is there, let alone to visit.