How much time with your GF is to much time?

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  1. BradUF

    BradUF Guest

    Well I have been going with my girlfriend for almost a year and I am starting to feel like I want to be around her to much. All my friends say they would not do stuff with there gf more then three times a week. But I feel like I could be with mine at least 5 times a week. I think how much I want to be around my girlfriend is to much because she only wants to do something maybe twice a week and talk every other day. I just thought at this point in a relationship it would be like I was over there all the time or she would want to be around me all the time. Like its natural for me to be there.
     
  2. socket

    socket Kids at the track, stay off crack. Blood, sweat,

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    My girlfriend wants to be around me all the time, its annoying as hell. She says she never sees me and we see each other every day. Its boring as hell, I run out of things to talk about and she gets mad and tells me that I never talk to her. Its not fun, I have been dating her for two years and she keeps pushing to see each other more. I told her tonight to give me some free space and let me breathe alittle.
     
  3. Muricane

    Muricane Active Member

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    Sometimes I find even 3 times a week a bit much; but 3 times at most is my rule.
     
  4. quickone

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    I could everyday
     
  5. Lad

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    It varies per person, per "time of the month", and per social type.

    Per person- Some people love their other half so much they could literally spend 24/7 365 forever. Some people love their other, but need personal space sometimes. lol. Me, I could spend 24/7 365 Forever and a day with my woman and not grow tired of it. Being deployed and seperation has given me an opportunity to totally enjoy being around her. And the time we spent together when I wasnt deployed, litterally went by too fast. I could and will spend the rest of my life with her AS MUCH AS I CAN with her until we die of old age lol.

    Per "Time of the month"- Its a fact women are different then men. I wont understand it, as I am not a woman. But I am sure the woman could get fed up with her man during certain times when she is on her rag. Mine puts up with me lol, maybe cause I try and be understanding, but sometimes I think she doesnt wanna see me lol....

    Per Social Type- Introver or Extrovert. Introvert is probably not going to want to spend as much time around their other, unless perhaps they get used to them in time. Extroverts may not mind being around them all the time, or they may need a break from them cause the other person is too needy and they may not give them enough room to breathe.

    Cliffs: It all depends on the person. Me I could spend every waking moment and every sleeping moment for the rest of my life.....
     
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    No such thing. :naughty: :)
     
  7. Wrekr9

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    Im with mine everyday..doesnt bother me. I njoy being with her/doing things with her. Only time she is not with me is when im at work or out riding my dirt bike.
    You can still do the things you want to do and hang with your girl more than 3 times a week.
     
  8. BradUF

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    Well I know I could spend almost every day with my GF but I am almost sure she could not spend more then 3 days out of the week with me. Just because she is one of those people that needs there space. The time we do have together most of the time is great. But since I want to spend a ton of time with her and she does not does this mean we are not right for each other?
     
  9. inamorato

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    i spend most of all my days with my gf... she is my bestfriend, my angel, and someone who i cant live without. I tell her everything, and she listens... she tells me everything, and i listen...

    best advice is that you should talk to your gf... otherwise your relationship will never be comfy for you... .... i hope you dont need the interweb to tell you that!
     
  10. Sceptre81

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    been dating my girl now nearly 6 months....few days have went by that I haven't seen her at all. I bring her to work in the morning (lives nearby, her work is on the way to mine), pick her up in the evening...she goes in her house to change, jumps back in car with me and i drop her off that night around 10...same thing all over next day. Weekends, she usually spends one night and my house and we're together the whole weekend except for the morning she doesn't sleep over
     
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    ive been dating my girl for only like 5 months. i dont see ehr everyday, only 3-4 times a week, but idk, i have to talk to her for atleast a little while, like talking to ehr makes me feel better idk. shes the same way.
     
  12. RedVsBlue

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    Lets see, checking the calendar...

    Its been 91 days since I have had a day without my girl being around for atleast 4 hours. And I have loved every minute of it.

    I have friends in a relationship that think I am so stupid and 'pussy wipped' because I spend so much time with her. I never neglet my friends so they dont get pissed at my relationship, but they just dont understand why I like spending so much time with her. Most of them spend maybe a day or two a week with thier SO's, and sometimes even complain about that.

    I dont see how someone you truly love can get old after time. I find out new things I love about my girl every day, and when she leaves, I cant wait to see her the next morning.
     
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    i was w/ my exgf for 2 1/2 yrs and we were long distance so i saw her every two months. Sometimes we would spend the 2 weeks together all the time. I dont know about you guys but i got sick of her and she annoyed the hell out of me. I always need some time to myself. Thats the kind of person i am. It gets bad when you spend all your time with your gf and never with your friends anymore.
     
  15. Muricane

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    or, the only time you see your friends is when you're g/f is there too.

    That doesn't really count, your friends don't want to hang out with your g/f.
     
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    Thats why its good to be friends first. My girl hung out with all my friends and I before we became us. So to them, she is one of the guys, and they like hanging out with her too. Makes things better for me because I dont have to pick and choose wether I want to hang with my girl, or with my friends. However you have to set aside proper time for each individually also. Good time management with your friends goes a long way.
     
  17. -=Likwid=-

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    personal space is definitely a MUST in every relationship; without it the relationship will deteriorate. I hope you communicate that to your SO and that she actually understands.

    seeing each other that much can be excessive and destructive for many relationships.
     
  18. JordanClarkson

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    You want to be able to have a clear mind in relationships. If you're with your SO that often, it's way too easy to get attached and not even realize it. And then you mistake that attachment for love. It's not a good thing
     
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    for the first 15months my gf and i were inseperable. i enjoyed every minute of it but she know wants to get the partying out of her. she feels like she doesn't have a lot of time to do it and wants to get it out of her system. In the last two weeks, we probably spent two days with each other, compared to 10 days in a normal two week period. I'm really confused by her behavior and it is kind of random. I felt that she would rather hang out with her friends then me. I asked her if she was happy with me and she said yes, but she said she was getting 'bored' of doing the same things. From past relationships this is kind of a sign where the relationship is in jeopardy. She doesn't have the same look in her eyes... I dont know anymore.

    Sorry about hijacking your thread.
     
  20. BradUF

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    Nah its cool. Sounds like its going end. What sucks is she does not know what to do and will break up with you even tho you did not do anything wrong.
     
  21. Fairy

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    Awww Darling, there is never a time where I don't want to see you or be around you :kiss: Once you come home I also plan to spend as MUCH time as I can with you :love:
     
  22. cz-70

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    it just per couple. with my last gf we were in the same major so we saw each other several hours a day regardless. the only time we didnt spend much time each other was on sundays. i took here home i had to do fraternity the rest of the day after i sobered up.
     
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    I think you should be with your g/f as much as you feel you want to be with her. It's your decision, not your friends. If the g/f wants you around, then whynot be with her? That's what connection is all about, being with a person and being happy.
     
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    I see my boyfriend everyday! I love seeing him but i think there is a time when both of us need our space for at least one day.
     
  25. Vegasoutkast

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    if you love eachother and truly enjoy eachothers company then you shouldnt set limits on how often you spend time with them. Go by feel, and be aware - open up communication with her and agree that if either of you need some extra time by yourself then respect it. Otherwise have fun, life is short!
     

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