How much of a relationship should sex take up?

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  1. Guz200sx

    Guz200sx The man who does more than he is paid for will soo

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    I mean like....How important is sex in a relationship?? Should it be 30%, 40%?? If its higher than 75%, is that too much?!
     
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    thats a great starting figure if you ask me
     
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    Guz200sx The man who does more than he is paid for will soo

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    It can't be 100% cause then a couple would be havin sex all the time and thats not being realistic.
     
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    I think sex is very important...but shouldn't be the initial deciding factor on the relationship.


    I can't really put a % to it :dunno:
     
  6. Cerridwen

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    Do you want her to be having sex with you while breastfeeding your children? :mamoru:

    A couple should have as much sex as they both want in the relationship. What may work for us may not work for you. Every person is different and everybody's sex drive is different.
     
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    lmao, no, hahahhhahaha.

    ok, maybe....

    Naw, thats a big negative :rofl:

    touche, 95% of the time.
     
  8. Cerridwen

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    Alright well hypothetically in this situation you are married. There are 168 hours in a week. If you are having sex 95% of the time, that is 159.6 hours of the week. (obviously there are tons of other factors such as work and things like that, but you get the picture :mamoru: )

    It depends on exactly what the threadstarter is asking. Is he asking us to put a percentage value on how important sex should be in a relationship? Or is he asking us to say how much of the time spent with your SO should be spent having sex?
     
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    good question, he didnt specify so I threw a random bullshit # out
     
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    speaking of value here.....30% sounds about right. however kissing, fooling around, etc should take up another 20%, so I'd say 50% of the relationship should revolve around some sort of physical contact.
     
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    at least 50%
     
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    I'd like to know both if possible....I want to know how important is sex for a relationship to last and strive?

    I also want to know how much of the time you spend with your SO should be spent having sex?

    What if its a LDR?? Does the importance of sex go up?? Should & Does the time you spend having sex with your SO go up??

    Does the # of yrs spent together reduce the importance of sex? Does it reduce the amount of sex a couple has also???

     
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    Guz200sx The man who does more than he is paid for will soo

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    Is that (or considered) too much? Thats half of the time a regular couple would spend together.


     
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    you seem to really care about this subject. is there any reason for that?
     
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    Guz200sx The man who does more than he is paid for will soo

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    Future Reference.
     
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    I honestly don't know, we choose not to define our relationship by sex. :)

    That being said, intimacy is very important for a relationship to last and thrive, at least in my opinion.
     
  18. Guz200sx

    Guz200sx The man who does more than he is paid for will soo

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    Well, not you specifically. Just in general.

    Does asking all those questions mean I am defining a relationship purely sexually???

     
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    They say that if you are getting sex regularly, its value is 10% of the relationship, but if you are not getting it, its value is 90% of the relationship.

    Its very important.
     
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    Of course...all of my answers are coming from my relationship. So it's just what I think, which will probably be completely different from the general view. :hs:

    Like I said...I cannot put a number or a % to how important it is. But personally I think sex is very important for a serious relationship. In no way, shape or form am I saying the relationship should be based off of sex. However I value that connection with my GF. I have never gone and slept around with random girls, or get into relationships just so I can have sex with a hot girl.

    I just put more value and meaning to it :dunno:


    Since my GF and I started having sex....we actually have sex a lot. If it was possible we'd do it every day to be honest. However we spend a lot of time together just because we love being around eachother. So when you compare it to the stuff we do, it's actually not THAT much.

    I really don't think you can put a time limit or number of sessions to this. It's not like you should have 7 hours of sex per week....or have sex atleast 3/5 days...or make sure you have 2 rounds of sex after a date...ETC.

    Just go with the flow.


    Actually for me it's the reverse(GF is 4 hours away until I move up there into my new apartment). Sure I get deprived from sex. However after not being able to see my girlfriend for the last 2 weeks. All I want to do is just see her and spend time with her.

    If it's sex...great...I need/want some ass. However me wanting to go up and see her has nothing to do with having sex.

    Just want to be with her period :o

    Um...we've been together for not quite a year...almost. So I can't give you a full answer.

    However as the months go by....importance of sex is still there, and we actually have waaaaay more sex. We're getting more open about sex, doing more things...etc. So it's gotten better with time.
     
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    oh...and I know you're curious. However...you're thinking about it waaaay too much man.


    just let things happen and then form your own opinions based off of your own experiences and values...etc.

    :)
     
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    I have the answer for you........ 1/3 ; 33.3333....%

    Three parts to a successfull relationship: PASSION, Intimacy, Committment


    Committment - Being faithful and true, being committed to and devote yourself to the other person.

    Intimacy - Communication, being involved in the other person, getting inside of their head, etc. How well you can relate and communicate and know the other person. The bond you have with that person.

    Passion - Not just sex, but including sex. I don't think I need to explain this one.



    These 3 form a triangle. The triangle represents a successful relationship.
    The more the sides of the triangle are equal in length, the healthier the relationship.

    If one side fails, the relationship will fail.
    If one side takes more attention than the other, then the triangle will be lop-sided and will likely give in eventually.

    Many marriage consultants use this.
     
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    As for time you spend having sex with your SO.

    There are many different factors.

    But if has to be enough so that you are maintaining that passion with each other. Of course when you get older and have been with each other a long long time, you probably won't do it as much. It's not that the passion has decreased, it is just that it takes less to satisfy each other. A couple that has been married for 50 years is not going to have sex as often as the couple that has been married 5.

    It just takes less to fulfill that side of the triangle for some.
     
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    great triangle answer solus. I think that's a good way to look at it.
     
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    If you have to put a number on it you're doing it wrong.
     

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