On one hand you get the best of both worlds - on the other you don't really fit into nor completely accepted into either circle. I'm married, and I like it that way. My wife allows me to play with guys if she gets to play also (she's very straight - no girls allowed - ok with me). I've been seeing a guy for 4+ years. It works well although we'd both like more... of everything. He lives about an hour away which is good and bad. Wifeand I have talked with him about him moving in with us, sounds like fun but not realistic at all (he's got grown children, mine are still living at home and will be for at least 10 more years). More wishful thinking if anything. He needs a full time relationship; I can't offer that. Compromises are just that: compromises Do you have any interesting stories?