how long were you dating before you asked them to move in

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  1. hurleywurley

    hurleywurley OT Supporter

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    I've never had an opportunity like this before so it's new ground for me :o

    Been dating this girl since early July, things are going really well. I'm 26 with my own house and she's 25 living with her sister in a rented house. She has already decided to move out because her sister is insane, just wondering if it's too early to suggest moving in with me.
     
  2. Thelonius

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    id give it at least 6 months.
     
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    3 months would be too early for me.
     
  4. CheeseDanish

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    too early
     
  5. Thelonius

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    have you guys ever been on a trip or something where you're around each other 24/7?
     
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    Toroweedeater99 Registered E-thug

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    everything you need to know about what happens when you ask someone to move in with you too soon watch Judy Judy/Peoples Court for a week and realize that what you are watching can become a reality.
     
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    she stayed at my place for three days once, we did everything together for that period of time. Not an actual roadtrip so I doubt it qualifys for what you're asking.
     
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    3 days is a start but its not quite there. How often does she stay at your place? Before I moved in with my ex we would hang out every night and stay over every night. We would constantly be together. Work your way up to it. When boiling lobsters you put them into cool water and slowly heat up the water so they don't notice. Same thing.
     
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    Not really the same thing..trips a good test because there's some stress introduced usually as well.
     
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    i remember entertaining thoughts of moving in with my ex, after about 6-7 months..then we went somewhere for a week.
     
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    me and my ex moved in together ~ 3 months into our relationship. it was really fun
     
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    I had a positive experience with my GF moving in after only 3 months dating as well.

    However, it's definitely a risky move. Weigh what you know about her carefully before making a decision. Small annoyances become big annoyances quickly when living with someone. Are your lines of communication clear enough that you could handle potential issues?
     
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    It would have to be past the 6 month mark for sure. Even then I wouldn't feel comfortable with the person actually moving in. Staying over all the time while keeping their own place is acceptable in that timeframe though. Then if things work out they could get rid of their place. That's still pretty fast though. I'd only do that if things were going along damn near perfectly.
     
  15. iwishyouwerebeer

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    lol well that settles that
     
  17. Gogoplata

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    Mine moved in after the first date. Never left. Sleep with her every night still.
     
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    We were dating 9 mos.
     
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    I would prefer to wait a year.
     
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    we were dating 2 years. and we weighed the options for 2 or 3 months before we came to the final decision
     
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    wait for the "honeymoon" phase to wear off and see if you still like each other before you consider moving in together
     
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    this is one of those how long should I wait to call her next questions. In the end if you think you can do it, do it. No ammount of advice from anyone here is going to be spot on unless they know you her her IRL. While someone may say wait at least 6 months because thats what worked for them it doesnt mean it is going to be that way with you. I waited 2 years to move in with my ex and we broke up a year after that (it had nothing to do with her moving in it would have happened no matter what).
     
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    At the same place in my relationship. I bascially live at her apt. When I say that all my clothes, food, school shit, etc is at her place. In the past week I've spent 2-3 hrs at my place to do laundry because she doesn't have a washer/dryer. My lease is up at the end of April and probably going to move in if still with her.
     

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