How long until "I love you" with SO

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  1. Nev

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    How long was it for all of you?
     
  2. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    I'm guessing he hasn't said it to his SO so he's thinking we'll all say how long into the relationship any of us said it...that way he can decipher if it's bad or not that they haven't said it yet. Amirite?
     
  3. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    No I'm being serious. When you're in a relationship for a while (few months) and "I love you" hasn't been said it's pretty common for at least one of the people to start getting anxious and wonder if it's weird by most standards that neither have said it.

    Or maybe he genuinely was just interested to see the difference or similarities in answers between us all. :dunno:

    Either way, there is no set time frame for people to ay I love you, just depends on when you mean it.
     
  4. Nev

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    Notrite.

    Similar post was in the main forum so I thought I'd cross-post it here :dunno:

    I'm already in the "said it" doghouse :run:
     
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    a year?

    :dunno: think i may be on the far end of the curve on that one though
     
  6. Jimeigh

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    never
     
  7. Nev

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    Well, you don't just say it because... Or if you have been in a relationship for awhile. YOu have to mean it. My SO said that a lot of his ex girlfriends (always ended at the 10 mo. mark, it seems) got upset because he wouldn't say it. Weird.

    He and I were best friends for awhile before dating. Everything just felt right. It was prob about 2 months for us. Now, we have been together for almost 3 years (next month will be the three year mark). I am happy and he feels the same.
     
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    probably like.....6 months or so? maybe a little sooner than that.

    :dunno:
     
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    I've seen people after 2 months say it. Me, I've been in relationships of 6 months or so and I can say I have never been in love. I'm guessing it's your own preference.
     
  11. Falconer

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    Like one month. w00t!

    Let me rephrase, all of my relationships where it's actually be said it was said within the first month. These relationships lasted 3.5 years, 2.5 years, and just over 1 year. You know it right away, usually.

    edit - the first two were in college so we saw each other all the time, so our first month was like a few months for most people. The last one, we were retarded and saw each other all the time anyway (yeah I know that's a mistake per PUA rules), but still. Just trying to give some context here. It's like like I dated a girl 3 or 4 times and dropped an L-bomb after the 4th date.
     
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    somewhere between 1 month and 18 months?
     
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    When you love them?
     
  14. otherlank

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    whenever you love them.

    ive only told 2 people that i loved them...first one was 2 months in, the second was 7 days from our first kiss. granted, most people will say that 7 days is way too soon, and id agree. this is the girl i am going to marry however.

    if you dont love someone, are you actually going to say it without meaning it just because some people on the internet all have said it sooner?
     
  15. Nev

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    Yeah I told this new girl after just under months. I never thought I'd say it to someone that early. We just work, plain and simple.

    She actually said it to me about 1.5 weeks prior to that while she was drunk. It was a drunk slip and she got embarassed and walked out of the bar we were in.

    :love:
     
  16. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    I know you said "usually," but I still disagree with that statement in general.
     
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    I told boyfriend after about two weeks. Its been about 15 months now.
     
  18. Falconer

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    Everytime I've been "in love" it's been fucking intoxicating. That's why I said you "usually" know it right away. Everyone I've dated who did not turn into a LTR I never really felt anything for from the beginning.
     
  19. Half-Pint

    Half-Pint will you give in to me?

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    Three months for us.. he said it first.. I was shy
     
  20. quadracer420

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    it all depends, you will know when you are in love.
     
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    I have never said "i love you" to my SO In any relationship

    love to me is a strong word and saying too early in a relationship is a big turn off for me. escpecially if we don't spend a lot of time together or don't know one another as well as we should.
     
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    The fiance said it to me right before our 2 months. Now we've been together just over 2 years and are engaged :)

    There is no SET time to say it. It's whenever you feel it and mean it.
     
  23. otherlank

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    there hasnt been a single guy that came along and just knocked your socks off?
     
  24. sportsjunkie

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    no. not really

    i wish there had been. i don't know what love really is though. in my household, i didn't grow up hearing it

    so i guess that's why i've never said it :hs:
     
  25. quadracer420

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    im sorry that truly sucks. Love is a wonderful thing
     

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