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  1. Yuppy

    Yuppy Have a seat right there....

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    Im not usually one for asking for advice but Ive been seeing the same girl for entirely too long and for the most part I have her trained. She fully understands the concept of blowjob week and for the most part keeps me satisfied. However at the same time I find myself getting bored. Its kind of the same old, same old instead of something new and exciting. The thing is with her, its never been really exciting.

    We've never done it in weird places or anything that really pushes the envelope. It has always been repressed conservative sex.I probably would've thought about this sooner but I've had a lion's share of women in my day and for the most part there isn't a lot I have wanted to do that I haven't done.

    However, I would like her to experience some new stuff, and so would I. I also would love to see her come up with some fucked up shit that she just has always wanted to do but maybe is too shy to ask, I will do anything once, anything (to a woman or from one). I kind of laid out the ground work for it last night by asking her about it. What do you think I can do to help her and I mix it up a little bit more?
     
  2. RougeOgre

    RougeOgre FS Librarian and MOD

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    Introduce her to something new. Some people say "watch porn" as a joke, but really if you've never seen or read about it how will you know?

    There are more subtle books about making your sex life better, then there is the Playboy advisor and Hustler letters (is that still published? :mamoru:)
     
  3. Yuppy

    Yuppy Have a seat right there....

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    well ive done the whole porn thing. i mean how do i take a conservative chick and make her want me to tie her up while she screams no and beat that hole. Or how do i get her to want to have sex on an airplane? Or how do I get her to want to fuck in a local bar? How do you push it even more than that?
     
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    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    why are you focusing on this one rather than finding another girl who is readily up for that?
     
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    demosnat New Member

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    It sounds like (and I could be wrong) you're focusing all of the pleasure on you. If you want HER to get excited about new things, try to make them things that get her hot and bothered.
    You should be 'getting her to do stuff' so much as getting her to WANT to do said stuff.
     
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    demosnat New Member

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    Also, is has she been having sex long (or often) if she's knew to it she may need time to loosen up :dunno:
    my roommates gf was a TOTAL prude when they started dating, he didn't push her but did let her know he wanted to do more, and she came around quite enthusiastically as she learned to let go.
     
  7. Yuppy

    Yuppy Have a seat right there....

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    nah ive had sex with her for over a year.... ive started letting her know, asking her directly. Sure i could go get a random chick but I am enjoying it with her right now, ive had my share.

    edit: she definately isnt a prude, its just she kinda chooses to not be into much past a, b sex.
     
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    and i assume you've tried and been declined?
     
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    Yuppy Have a seat right there....

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    yea; i cant get it in her ass. She wasnt really into porn. I havent done too much past that. I dont want to totally freak her out
     
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    introduce her to FS....it will get her mind wandering on why other people do it....she will try and maybe like it
     
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    Just get really drunk and usually the inner freaks in us all come out then.......or perhaps this is just my experience in college :dunno:
     
  12. Yuppy

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    yea ive tried that. massive failure. she doesnt even like me touching her ass for some weird reason. shes not huge on skin to skin contract w/o sex; like cuddling naked .

    its weird to me too.
     
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    yea i would but shes not much for PCs; she still only has like 8 friends on her myspace and only checks it once every 2 weeks.
     
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    as long as she can read, just show her fs ;)
     
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    communicate. We always stress this and it is very important. I do understand that it is easy to say it and hard to practice it. I think the key thing would be to talk to her about what you are wanting. Start slow and say hey, you wanna try this or while you are doing stuff, suggest switching it up.
     
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    Yuppy Have a seat right there....

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    yea i tend to be a take instead of ask for guy. . . makes it a lil harder but im definately working it, ive asked her to get creative, she wants to do some cosplay, im excited. gotta hit the sex shop soon. and i want pics just as bad as u
     
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    The key is to understand what you are partner is comfortable with. Also, you need to 'break' people in if they are not up for it initially or you will scare them off. The worst thing a person can do is jump on something and freak their partner out (which is why some guys don't get anal or threesome stuff, because they push it wrong).

    Also, I would suggest, don't tell her 'get creative' YOU are the one that wants things different, so YOU come up with stuff. You say 'I want more' but you don't say what you want more of. Give her some suggestions and ask her stuff. She will then be able to respond accordingly
     
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    Blowjob week? What's that?

    To spice things up, talk to her, blah blah blah.
     
  20. Yuppy

    Yuppy Have a seat right there....

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    her period.
     
  21. Lovely Atlantis

    Lovely Atlantis Luscious Lovely Lady!

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    Just because she doesn't like those two things doesn't mean that she won't be into other things. I don't like ass or porn much either, but there's tons of other stuff that I'm up for! It's just about finding out what is right for her. Tell her that you want to make her most kinky fantasy come true. Hopefully that will help her to open up about what her desires are. But like others have said, be patient and be respectful of her wishes.
     
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    Do you make up for it by giving her lots of oral when she's done?

    Really, it sounds like the problem is that you're only focusing on YOUR pleasure.
     
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    Take X together.

    /thread
     
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    Previous sexual abuse?
     
  25. Yuppy

    Yuppy Have a seat right there....

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    Lol. Well during that time yes. You may be somewhat correct on this..... I am selfish on occasion, I tend to make up for it every other(or 3) week with a fairly epic session.

    possible, unlikely but maybe.
     

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