how do you tell your gf "I'm glad you're not a whore" WITHOUT sounding judgemental?

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  1. Falconer

    Falconer OT Supporter

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    Hypothetical situation.

    You want to tell your gf that you like the fact that she hasn't fucked 243978234978 guys.

    BUT, you don't want to seem judgmental against sex (low value).

    If the context is right and you say "i'm glad you're not a whore," will:

    a) she'll like that you respect her decisions (ie. you guys are on the same page = bonus points)

    or

    b) even tho it's a compliment she'll think you have weird sex issues (even tho you've been having crazy sex for a long time)

    c) something else?

    Sorry guys not a real poll this time.
     
  2. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    why would you even bother?
     
  3. BoomerP

    BoomerP New Member

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    You can say that you like that she's picky. It makes you feel more special to her or something. Sounds corny but if you something like it with a playfull tone it will still sound sweet.

    Orr I'm not sure I'd bring it up.
     
  4. PcH

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    I would just say it.
     
  5. KGB ate my bread

    KGB ate my bread Made you look. OT Supporter

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    modest is a good term
     
  6. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Telling your SO something like that just makes you come off scared and insecure that they could be a whore, or possibly change into one.
     
  7. Ford4Life

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    I don't really see the point in telling her. That whole conversation is a potential mine field that will likely blow up in your face. Just keep your mouth shut and be happy you found one who hasn't fucked the whole city.
     
  8. Falconer

    Falconer OT Supporter

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    i dunno.

    my gf said it to me in the past. i was just like "me too." i took it as a compliment and cool thing that we were on the same page about that.

    i read something on another forum that made me think of posting this thread.

    i'll make a real poll next time guys i *promise*!
     
  9. runawaycamel

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    just tell her? It doesn't really seem like anything that needs intense thought. You're glad she's not a whore. I'm sure she is glad, too. If she secretly is a whore then I'm sure she'll be glad to know that you think she's not. *shrug*
     
  10. Deborah

    Deborah Seeing is believing, but I don't want to know.

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    Just say you like that she has the same values as you.
     
  11. Deborah

    Deborah Seeing is believing, but I don't want to know.

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    or she might feel guilty that you think she is not but she is:mamoru:
     
  12. KindlyCuddly

    KindlyCuddly Irina Lazareanu

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    C) she starts feeling insecure about not having whore'd it up enough and dumps you to "explore other options"
     
  13. Midgetized

    Midgetized Don't mess with Douche Cat

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    Just say it. If she isn't a whore then she is probably somewhat "judgemental" about sex too. Nothing wrong with that and I don't know why someone would think of you as "low value" for it.
     
  14. Diesel66

    Diesel66 My standards for women is like rent-a-centers stan OT Supporter

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    then she might get really nervous about the other 100 guys she fucked but didnt tell you about
     
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    Something like "I'm glad you haven't been DP'd (lately)."
    And then simply add..."not that there's anything wrong with that."
     
  16. Kev07

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  17. Vysion

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    Just appreciate her in other ways...
     
  18. Pringles

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    I appreciate your loyalty, but I take my SO not whoring around for granted as I assume she does for me.
     
  19. Deborah

    Deborah Seeing is believing, but I don't want to know.

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    you know my boyfriend I think somehow appreciates it too. But he does not say anything, a few times that the subject came up, I could see this funny happy spark in his eyes :rofl:
     
  20. Falconer

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    Talking about in the past, not currently in the relationship.
     
  21. Lazy D.

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    why do you want to tell her that ?
     
  22. Falconer

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    first two words in the thread were "hypothetical situation."

    But a reason for wanting to tell her could be a quick way of saying "hey, guess what, we're on the same page when it comes to sex and I think that's cool :h5: "
     
  23. Deborah

    Deborah Seeing is believing, but I don't want to know.

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    Then just say it falconer. There is nothing wrong with it really.

    by the way, I know you have this list of requirements for a gf. How do you ask them when you are dating a girl without sounding judgemental?
     
  24. Falconer

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    I ask in the beginning when I don't really care yet.

    I think it's important, because it's easy to disqualify people before you've developed many feelings.

    It would suck to fall head over heels in love with someone and then find out that you have to disqualify them on principle...
     
  25. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    If your gf admitted to you today [after the year+ that you've been together] that she had lied to you and had slept with a bunch of men in her past.....what would you do?
     

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