SRS How do you tell someone you hate them?

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  1. gman427

    gman427 New Member

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    Well, there someone out there who think they are my friend, but I actually hate them. I would go up to the person and say I hate them,but one of my good friend is her good friend, and then everyone at the school will think im a jerk, so what do I do?
     
  2. daaarn

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    just be distant with the person. show some basic courtesy, but otherwise dont give her the impression that you're close [ie- dont lead them on].

    some might disagree, but i dont think there's much benefit in openly airing out those types of feelings directly, it'll just lead to a lot of unneeded conflict. but i would at least tell your friend about your feelings, that way they might be able to help.
     
  3. gman427

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    I did tell my good friend, she knows.
     
  4. Guz200sx

    Guz200sx The man who does more than he is paid for will soo

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    thats a good question...i have a couple of people that I hate (at my job) and I would love to tell them that I hate them and I don't want anything to do with them.

    I don't have the guts to do that though! lol
     
  5. Coottie

    Coottie BOOMER......SOONER OT Supporter

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    Why tell anyone you hate them?? IMO it's because you want to destroy them, emotionally. Unfortunately, this rarely happens.

    I would suggest a "live and let live" approach is better.
     
  6. Guz200sx

    Guz200sx The man who does more than he is paid for will soo

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    Yea, I would just like to destroy them.
     
  7. Coottie

    Coottie BOOMER......SOONER OT Supporter

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    Realize that harboring this hate take energy....energy that can be used for other purposes.
     
  8. daneeyah

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    yea I don't really see the need to tell them you hate them, unless that makes you feel better. :hsugh:

    distance yourself... its prolly the best way to go around this.
     
  9. ledzep73

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    A better question would be why would you want to tell someone you hate them? Hell, why would you even hate someone? Thats a pretty powerful emotion, you shouldn't let people get it out of you.
     
  10. BlueLine

    BlueLine Guest

    One of my best friends was a complete leech off of me so I refuse to communicate with him.
     
  11. hobbitnomore

    hobbitnomore New Member

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    ignore them. that is the best revenge. why feed their ego? pretend they don't exist and eventually they won't.
     
  12. sportsjunkie

    sportsjunkie OT Supporter

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    Hate is a strong word.
    Make sure you know the difference between hate and dislike.

    If you hate someone, there's not reason to tell them you hate them unless they ask "do you hate me."
    Other than that, there's no need to say anything.

    If you hate a person, you don't want to associate with them, so take that first step by not telling them you hate them, and just ignore, and go about your business.
    Usually that other person realizes that you don't like them and they'll distant themselves away from you.
     
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  14. teo

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    :rofl: awesome

    And if you do this, you might find out more about them as well...
     

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