FRK How do you recommend going about finding a third?

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  1. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    I'm uncomfortable behaving sexually towards another man, so it would be a woman.

    My lover and I can get bills of health from an STD testing facility. Looks are not a problem because I'm objectively average or cute and she's objectively beautiful. Jealousy (read: communication) is not a problem for us.

    Do you recommend putting an advert in a paper?

    Are there any good online hook-up sites?
     
  2. Diesel66

    Diesel66 My standards for women is like rent-a-centers stan OT Supporter

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    normal one is her friends.

    bars and have her pick up a girl.
     
  3. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    True dat. I'm not sure what friends she will have nearby, now that she's moving to NYC. Gotta be someone.

    :o @ the last response. I really should be doing that myself. Better yet, in tandem. Make a good pivot. Hmmmmm.

    BUT the problem with bars is, STD's.

    Whereas if you can plan in advance you can avoid STD's. The problem with planning in advance is, what mediums are there available for coordinating a hook up like this, and do they work? Anyone have exp with this...?
     
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    swinger clubs.
     
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    RougeOgre FS Librarian and MOD

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    Somehow I've become the freakshait reference librarian....:naughty:

    (now where is that costume? :rofl:)
     
  8. Diesel66

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    my closet. Ignore the cheerleader, she is for later.
     
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    RougeOgre FS Librarian and MOD

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    The Librarian & The cheerleader.......interesting :naughty:
     
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    Diesel66 My standards for women is like rent-a-centers stan OT Supporter

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    well i do have my football uniform still :kdubb:


    thinking something along the lines of I need tutoring so I can play the big game, but I just cannot concentrate. Maybe sometype of reward system would help ?
     
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    Peyton Manning I love your mom a whole, whole lot.

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    Friends are your best bet. :o
     
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    and possibly the most troubling
     
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    good way to end the relationship or friendship.

    No matter how cool you guys think you are with it, you probably aren't.
     
  14. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    so, she's actually seen me feel up another girl, and i've seen a guy hook up with her... i appreciate your concern but no worries here :wiggle:
     
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    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    update: we did this :bigthumb:

    i can't give any steamy details, but i can talk about the dynamic.

    my lover and I really liked the juicy parts of the experience, but i think the girl(s) we do it with in the future should not be the girl we did it with this time, as there was a LOT of comfort-building necessary and communication was poor.

    god fucking damn it was hot though.

    i think we need the third party (the other girl, the one who's not my lover) to be less "experimental" / more in touch with her homosexual side than this girl was.
     
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    It's not that easy to have your SO ask one of her friends. My SO is in a sorority, so you'd think it would be easy, and I'm sure it would be, but I bet my SO feels somewhat "scared" at asking, considering they are her friends and it could turn out awkward
     
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    Well, how did you go about finding your third?

     
  18. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    ah. my bad

    I have an ex-fuck-buddy (first gf) who was available.

    We broke all the FS rules: we did not agree to do it in advance (other than me talking to my lover about how it would be nice to do), we did not wait for consent from the 3rd party, we did not set up rules.

    I basically just went for it, which is my normal approach to sexual goals. I got in bed with my ex-fuck-buddy, cuddled, my lover came in, unplanned, joined us, there was a LOT of anti-slut defense from our 3rd party, then she started giving us retard-openers like "i wonder if our breasts taste different to you" (gee, i wonder, why don't we find out) and it escalated from there.
     
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    lol glad it worked out and glad you pointed out that you broke the FS rules :mamoru: I suspect it worked out more in your case because you already had that prior relationship which broke down a lot of possible awkwardness barriers
     
  20. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    That, and also, nothing's awkward with me and my lover around.
    I can't even imagine something being awkward with the two of us.
    We have such different styles with people, we cover all the bases.
     
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    sounds like you have a really sound relationship. Always good when you have a strong bond and trust with your partner that you can experiment and have a lot of fun :)
     
  22. JohnJohnJohnson

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    yes i totally agree
     

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