I'd rather not go into detail, and I'm not sure how not to. Point is that I have had severe trauma happen to me in my past that has harmed my relationship wtih my parents. They weren't the cause of it, but my relationship with them has been skewed. It is alot worse with my mom though. My mother has a very deep resentment towards me and I have no concern or love for her, and we both have good reason. I try to maintain a cordial relationship with my mom but I don't want a deep emotional bond with her, and I'm pretty sure she feels the same way. Last night we got really mad and it really hit home how hollow our relationship is. I have not felt any concern for her for a decade, and she has harbored a very deep resentment and hatred for me for the last decade. So what advice is there for trying to maintain a cordial relationship w/o either of us developing a deep emotional bond? Neither of us wants that, but I'd like it if we could get along. The thing is we did get along really well, and the last fight we had before last night was in 2003. But what happened last night really woke both of us up to how hollow our relationship is, but I don't think either of us wants a hostile relationship. Just a cordial, albeit hollow one. Has anyone had this, and if so what did you do to try to make it work? The problem is most advice is based on fixing the rift and building a real relationship but neither of us really wants that. I'd just like to have a more cordial relationship where we are both aware of what is really going on.