LGBT How do you know?

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  1. Naturally Baked

    Naturally Baked Active Member

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    Ok so ive been hanging out with this one guy for like 3-4 months and we've gone out to dinner like 5 times, just us....im not sure if he's even gay/bi, but we met on a local forum and have the same interest in cars so we decided to hang out one day...now I had no intention of us being close or in some sort of relationship other than just friends, but recently since ive moved away he's started texting me, and is now saying he's gonna move up here and come to college with me.....Now, this wouldnt puzzle me and I would just think he wanted to be good friends if we didnt have the following convo:

    He was coming back from Indiana and texted me saying he was taking hwy 69:

    Me: O, you take 69? (as in me being puzzled that he took that hwy)
    Him: And give, Are you bi?
    Me: what do you mean?
    Him: Are you bi?
    Me: huh? (im very confused at this point as to if hes serious)
    Him: O, you're not i guess lol


    Now I dont know how to read that...I dont know if he's just jokingly asking me, or if he used me asking him that question to actually ask me that question and if I said no he could then play it off as a joke....

    What am I to make of this ? :hs:
     
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    you had a golden moment to set everything straight....I'm in the same road...my friend is hanging out with me like every single day, the day we dont see each other he gets cranky, he gets very weird sometimes and touches my ear, massages me, jokes about us being in love and plays with my nipples yet he never goes serious about asking if I'm gay, straight or bi... :o

    a few weeks ago he went all weird and did these things in front of my friends and they all went :eek3: that this guy was being so blatantly gay for me...yet we still don't know is he is family or not...I hope he asks me soon so I know for sure :mamoru:
     
  3. Naturally Baked

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    why's it gotta be so hard :sadwavey:

    I didnt actually respond to his question about me being bi because I wasnt sure if he was serious and didnt wanna create any more drama for myself :ugh:

    Coming straight out and just saying it is def a :nono:...I guess ill have to wait it out and see what happens
     
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    I know the feeling....shitty how a simple honest moment can bring down an entire friendship....we will see :hs:
     
  5. Naturally Baked

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    So he sends me this over AIM:

    9:04:43 PM M***e: love u man
    9:04:45 PM M***e: no joke
    9:04:46 PM To***0: lol
    9:04:47 PM M***e: strait up
    9:04:50 PM To***0: thanks dude :)
    9:04:56 PM M***e: im serious


    See what I mean? Now I dont know if he "loves" me as a good friend or in another way...wtf ? lol...grr...just thought it was interesting and i would share
     
  6. Matitulo

    Matitulo If sexy never left then why is everybody on my shi

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    Judging from the first conversation you had, it seems to me that he is gay/bi. Next time he pulls some stuff like that, just confront him.
     
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    yea i would confront him too...and be like wtf :nuts:
     
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    He obviously wants you. Just ask him if he's interested in you or if you're his type.
     
  9. Bib-Lettuce

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    He's interested, judging from both those convo's I'd say he wants to be more than good friends.
     
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    I agree.
     
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    I think hes not out yet either - but is picking up on vibes from you.

    he is trying to "out" himself to you -without actually outing himself - kind of like insurance ;)

    its much easier to get someone else to say they're gay first..
     
  12. Naturally Baked

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    Hmm I think so...but im kinda doing the same thing and im too scared to say it 1st...and he broke up with his g/f like a week after we met :noes:...Oh well I guess next time I see him in person I'll try to bring it up
     
  13. Sam Gamgee

    Sam Gamgee Every tool is a weapon if you hold it right. OT Supporter

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    maybe he's just telling you that he loves you so you'll feel comfortable coming out to him.

    When I came out to my best friend, I was concerned because he was very straight. He said "no worries, man. I still love you!"

    I thought it was so cool!

    So, maybe he's just letting you know that it's cool that you're gay.

    Regardless, you should just come out to him. There's no reason to lie or withhold truths about yourself.
     
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    ya but theres no way you would know i was gay if I didnt say something
     
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    Me: O, you take 69? (as in me being puzzled that he took that hwy)
    Him: And give, Are you bi?


    Don't see much interpretation, if he asked you so bluntly I don't see that he has a problem with it. Especially after asking you something that sounds like 'wanna 69 with me', it sounds exactly like a proposition to me. Just wait for him to bring something like that up again, any sign really and feel it out to see how serious he is.
     
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    :h5:
     
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    Sam Gamgee Every tool is a weapon if you hold it right. OT Supporter

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    What does that have to do with anything?
     
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    so im saying I dont think he would be trying to hint at me that its okay to come out to him when you cant even tell im gay...I think if anything he's trying to figure out if I am, if there even is anything going on...but today he told me he loves me again :dunno:
     
  19. Matitulo

    Matitulo If sexy never left then why is everybody on my shi

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    Context of the recent conversation?
     
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    12:25:35 PM To***8: his cars sick
    12:25:36 PM Ma*****e: oh yae
    12:25:37 PM M****e: def.
    12:25:38 PM Ma*****e: he sold it
    12:25:42 PM M****e: got a black one
    12:25:42 PM To****0: wtf
    12:25:46 PM T****G0: ohh
    12:25:47 PM M****e: 04 to an 05
    12:25:49 PM M***: gotta go
    12:25:50 PM M***e: love u bye
     
  21. Matitulo

    Matitulo If sexy never left then why is everybody on my shi

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    In my experience with the heterosexuals, it's not common practice to write "love u" at the end of a IM conversation, especially when it seems like you two were just chatting.

    I can understand if you're worried that he's just trying to find out if you are gay as a joke or something; I went through that with my first boyfriend. However, it might be a good idea for you to just come out to him, as a very rewarding relationship could result. For me, it was really nice to be experiencing a gay relationship for the first time with someone who was in the same boat.

    I guess what I'm trying to say is, if you're interested, you might as well go for it.
     
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    Yeah I want to but if he's just like doin it to be funny or something then i feel like i'd be making an ass of myself :noes: (which i would be lol)...I guess next time he comes and spends the night up here ill talk to him
     
  23. Matitulo

    Matitulo If sexy never left then why is everybody on my shi

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    You might feel embarrassed if he is just doing it as a joke, but you're away at college right? Since you met him on a car forum, sounds like you don't have to continue the friendship if it turns out this way.
     
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    Ya well what I think Ill do is next time he comes over for the night ill see if he drops anything and go from there, im def not gonna bring anything up if he doesnt initiate it though but if he says something I think might be a hint ill respond to it
     
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    Tell the guy you're not sure but don't make him feel awkward...
     

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