how do you know if you are in love

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  1. tehexile

    tehexile New Member

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    so yea ive been dating this girl for almost a month now... we're very very VERY close in every way... i've had to stop myself so many times from saying "i love you'' and shes in the same situation... ive never felt this way about a girl before, and its definitly not lust beacuse we havent done anything but make out, and probably arent gonna for a while, not even in my mind at this point. she just makes me so happy whenever im around, and ive helped her out with some tough times with some personal problems, and she said outloud to herself "maybe i do love you..." in like the questioning of herself kinda way..... anyways do you think that a month is too short of a time to really love someone
     
  2. Bruticus

    Bruticus half dead OT Supporter

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    Sure it can happen but it is doubtful that it is really what you are feeling. You can still have lust without having sex, so it could certainly just be lust.

    How do you know if you are really in love? I've never actually seen/heard/read a good way of explaining it. I don't fall that fast though, so a month would definately be too short a time for me.
     
  3. PuppyCat

    PuppyCat O.T. Mom

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    Love doesn't have a timetable and YES you can fall in love in 300 seconds flat. My Grandparents did and they were married for over 60 years and were the most loving couple I have ever experienced. They truly LOVED each other.
     
  4. GABOS

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    no one can tell you that your in love.. its just something you feel..
     
  5. GABOS

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    love at first sight isnt true because you are basing that on looks alone.. therefore its lust.. even after 300 seconds its doubtful you will know enough about their personality to actually be in love..
     
  6. BlazinBlazer Guy

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    Actually? I disagree. If you are good at reading people, you can indeed get an impression of their overall personality/character style very quickly. That often can lead to a fairly accurate indication of your feelings potential toward that person.
     
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    There's no way to describe it. And no one can tell you if you are or arent. If you're in love, you just know.
     
  8. bigphil

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    would you jump in front of a bullet for her if you knew there was a 90% chance of death?
     
  9. charms119

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    i dont think so.......but maybe once you fuck her then you'll find out...hahhahahahaa.....oh and when you first fuck make sure you eat her punani out......mmmmm.....that'll make her love you forsure....hahahhahah....DO IT MAYN!!!!!
     
  10. Epiphany

    Epiphany 78% of all statistics are made up on the spot

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    For me... It's when there are no questions.
     
  11. bandwagon

    bandwagon Copy/Paste

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    If you've only known her for a month there is a very good chance that what you are feeling is an evolutionary function. Basicly you feel a psychosis infatuation that increases the chances of you procreating. It'll typically pass after ~18 months, or it may grow into REAL love.
     
  12. RedVsBlue

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    love is the end of self...You know when you are truly in love because its not even a question. You dont sit around and talk about how you would give anything for the one you love, because you already do. Alot of people talk love, but real love is action.

    Most people feel lust and emotion and assume love, but I say you cant truly know love until it is put to the test. Its easy to SAY how you will react, but its alot different when the time comes. Like I started out saying...love is the complete end of self, and the begging of 'us'
     
  13. tehexile

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    DIAF
     
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    I just want to ask how old you are first.

    but in my opinion... love doesn't necessarily have to be restrained by time.
    although, you may think you're in love at first, and then find out later that maybe you weren't. after you get to know someone better, things can change drastically.

    on a side note... i've said i love you many times to a few different boyfriends. i may have meant it at the time, but i no longer feel that. some of them i could still tolerate being friends with (ok, well maybe only one or two) but i don't love them anymore. things change.

    i'm not saying that you're suggesting this or that you said it, but i would never marry anyone that i only knew for a short period of time. i've known my fiance for a little over 12 years, we've been friends since we met, and we've been dating for three, living together for one.

    it takes a lot to get to that stage.
     
  15. jab1983

    jab1983 40/40 crew failure with less than 1 week to go...D

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    I thought I loved my last girlfriend after a month, its not love its just the new thrill.

    When you are in love you just know it and from what I have experienced it takes longer than 1 month to be sure.


    Just enjoy the ride.
     
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    O and btw...love is built not felt. You arent going to wake up one day and be in love. Its something that you build over time and experience.
     
  17. low20

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    my gf told me she loved me after we dated for a month. we knew eachother for years before though but not that well...i think you will know when your in love..
     
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    its impossible to get a completely accurate reading about someone.. atleast impossible to tell if you will know enough about them to love them..
     
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    It doesn't take me long to find a person's major flaws and know if I can live with them or not. And frankly, EVERY person has at least some major flaws. The question becomes if the flaws are major in a bad way, or major in a good way.
     
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    IMHO....

    Love is friendship that has caught fire. It takes root and grows, one day at a time. It is quiet understanding and mature acceptance of imperfection.
     
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    My girl said she loved me before we were even dating. I had known her for about a month. We started dating shortly after that
     
  22. Trina

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    Love definitely isn't constrained by time.

    The first time I met my now husband I knew we would date. I was dating someone else at the time.

    Then we started hanging out as friends, and I had to put up with him dating my former best friend. She's a flake so it only lasted 2 1/2 months (yes, I warned him about her flakiness too, but he had to find out on his own).

    Once we started dating I knew we would end up together forever....and here we are over 16 1/2 years later and still together.
     
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    fucter crappy speller

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    your not in love, i can tell.
     

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