SRS How do you help someone with a gambling addiction?

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  1. JFForPresident

    JFForPresident Fuck me in the beard. OT Supporter

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    My mom has always had a gambling problem. Over the past few years I and other family members have bailed her out of financial issues due to her gambling. Last August I lost my job and had to move back home, staying on the couch. The last few months I have found work, but also my mom has fallen deeper and deeper into debt from gambling. It is to the point where she has many payday loans out. I make more than enough to move out of her place but agreed to stay and help her out financially as long as she abstaned from gambling. It was about 3 weeks after we made this agreement then she started gambling again. Whenever I or other family members bring up her gambling problems shes gets defensive and starts an arguement and she refuses to seek counseling.

    I am pretty angry because she didn't honor her end of the agreement and I want to move out, but n the other hand shes my mom and I do not want to leave her hanging especcially after she bailed me out when I was unemployed.

    Any advice :x:
     
  2. Stilgar1973

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    See 'tough love'
    See also 'hitting bottom'

    Moving out and allowing your Mom to hit bottom IS loving her. It is a different sort of love, a harder sort of love to bear. But it is a greater love then staying at the house and providing for her a financial safety net so she can continue to gamble.

    That aside.
    There comes a point in our lives where we must flee the nest, live our own lives and grow stronger then what we can at home.
    You sound like you are way past that point, but by staying at home with her you are hurting yourself as well.
     
  3. civicmon

    civicmon got all my game from the streets of california.

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    Stop enabling her, you and all your relatives.

    Then move out of Vegas. I couldn't live there for the exact same reason that's ruining your mom's life. I'd go too far all the time.
     
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    there are numerous programs that can help you help her. look up in your local directory if you are serious about finding out what you can do.
     
  5. JFForPresident

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    Exactly what I think I should do. Its such a difficult decision though.
     
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    I found out about a few programs today from work. Going to check them out.
     
  7. jardel32

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  8. Weirdo1769

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    GA isn't for everyone, just like AA,NA, and all the lot. I tried it unsuccessfully a few times. Thinking that they will be able to get "out" meaning, if they gamble and lose, that they will be able to continue their behavior with little to consequence does help perpetuate their addiction. However, to the people that said let them hit rock bottom, it doesn't always work. I've slept in my car in the dead of winter due to gambling and continued to do it. Wound up in the hospital with heart problems. after drinking to excess because of depression relating to gambling. Sometimes rock bottom means death. I'm just letting you know from someone with a serious gambling addiction what can happen.
     

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