How do you handle a girl that talks too much??

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  1. Guz200sx

    Guz200sx The man who does more than he is paid for will soo

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    I'm meeting this girl later tonite (1st time) and we've talked once on the phone and she talked A LOT and I was just kind of like 'uh, uh. oh wow. cool.' and I would throw in the occassionally funny/smartass comment but she basically controlled the conversation..

    When we talk on IM Its pretty much back and forth tho.

    Tonite tho....I don't know how it will be. I'm wondering if she'll be nonstop talking and if so what can I do to handle or curb this??
     
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    I would have to say let her talk as much as she wants to. You can learn as much as possible from her if you just listen, and it will make the first date easier because you won't be sitting there stuck thinking about what to say next. As you get to know her I think she will stop talking as much and conversations will become regular, but until then just listen because shes making it easier for you.
     
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    Make fun of her when you catch her talking too much.

    Wait till she finally pauses and say something like "Does your jaw ever ache?"
     
  4. Guz200sx

    Guz200sx The man who does more than he is paid for will soo

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    :rofl: I'm definately goin to use that if she becomes a motormouth.
    :bigthumb:
     
  5. Guz200sx

    Guz200sx The man who does more than he is paid for will soo

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    My friend told me this once too...the other night on the phone though I found myself spacing out on what she was saying LOL.
    I ended up ending the call aburptly because of it too.
     
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    btw dude if she's talking that much she's probably trying to impress you which means she has a high interest level.
     
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    or she's really nervous

    my ex-wife, when we first got together she talked a whole bunch because she was nervous
     
  8. Guz200sx

    Guz200sx The man who does more than he is paid for will soo

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    She is obviously interested...She wouldn't have accepted if she wasn't.

    And I know for a fact, that she respects me also. :) because of my job.
     
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    Yup, and if she wasn't worried about the outcome, she wouldn't be nervous. Worried about outcome = high interest level.

    lol @ "does your jaw ever ache" :rofl:
     
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    I ignore her.
     
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    if she talks too much on the first date, skip to step three and cut out the dinner.
     
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    make peanut butter sandwiches with LOTS of peanut butter. That will quiet her down for a bit due to a sticky mouth.
     
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    If you do dinner and a movie, I highly recommend going Dutch.

    Otherwise you are buying her time and attention.
     
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    what's yoru job.
     
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    Guz200sx The man who does more than he is paid for will soo

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    Well, the date went good. She did not talk as much as before (on the phone) but she talked just enough to keep the conversation flowing all night long so I didn't even feel the need to use the jaw remark.

    After the movie, we went to dinner and ate and we talked forever. When we looked at our clocks we couldn't believe what time it was. I was into the conversation and time wasn't even a worry. Once we found out the time, we decided to call it a night and left.

    After the date, I went over to my friends house and talked about the 3 date rule and they told me I must not respect her if I'm going to be doing that. So now I am second guessing the rule.
     
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    Guz200sx The man who does more than he is paid for will soo

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    It worked out. :)

    Teacher.
     
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    Just do what you want to do. If you want to give her the 3 date limit, cool. If you want to give her more time, that's fine too. It's your life.
     
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    Its not about respecting her, its about respecting yourself.

    What is this guy's success level with women? Did he even once drop the phrase "just be yourself?"

    The master has explained this in DYD. This is taken directly from the book:

    This is also why dinner and a movie is a bad idea for a first date.

    Additionally, from my personal experience:

    The same woman who will deny you sex during "courtship" because she sees you as a potential LTR will still be open to casual sex with other men who get sexual with her but DO NOT send out courtship signals.

    So while you are wining and dining her, some other man may actually be getting what you wanted all along: sex with her!
     
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    The 3 date rule doesn't have to be firm 100% of the time. It can be bent.

    The purpose of the 3 date rule is so that you don't have to use 12 dates to get what you easily could have gotten within 3.
     
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    Guz200sx The man who does more than he is paid for will soo

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    The one friend who who was very against the "3 date rule" last night is actually a girl.

    After I explained it to every one else (a mixture of guys and girls), they all agreed that it was a dumb rule and that I should just be myself and whatever happens, happens.
     
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    Guz200sx The man who does more than he is paid for will soo

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    I don't get how is buying the girl dinner on a first date seen as a sign for a good long term relationship??
     
  22. You are showing her you want to buy things for her. More or less providor(sp?) instincts come into play at that point.
     
  23. Guz200sx

    Guz200sx The man who does more than he is paid for will soo

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    Personally, the movie/dinner wasn't that bad. We saw a movie we both enjoyed. Then we went for dinner and talked for HOURS. We got to know each other, etc...I think thats what first dates are supposed to be about anyway.
     
  24. Guz200sx

    Guz200sx The man who does more than he is paid for will soo

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    Hmmm...I dunno about that. Isn't it seen just as the guy being "nice"

    What if you don't buy her dinner then your seen as cheap which could kill your chance at getting a 2nd date??
     
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    Exactly
     

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