How do you get your SO to give better head?

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  1. Lee55055

    Lee55055 New Member

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    I've been dating this girl for a few months now. I'm just a little bit frustrated because the past few girls I've been with have given incredible head. The past two were so good at it that I could easily get off in a matter of minutes. My girlfriend now never minds giving me head but she is not too skilled at it. She nicks me with her teeth and says her mouth is just too small. Any of you ladies know a way I can voice this to her without her getting offended. The sex is great with us but sometimes I just really want a good blowjob and I always end up just finishing myself off after about a few minutes of her attempting to give me a bj.
     
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    why bother just find a different chick.
     
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    INSTRUCT HER DURING THE ACT

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  4. Drifter87

    Drifter87 Yippi-kay-ay, Motherfucker

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    Tell her what to do, that is what I did with my GF. After about 3-4 BJs, she now has it down great.
     
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    Yail Bloor OT Supporter

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    :rofl: oh how I've missed you.
     
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    fray New Member

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    And big . to the above. You've just got to communicate. Tell her what feels good and what doesn't while she's doing it. It's very possible to do without being rude or offensive (and without bringing up how the exes did it or how great they were).

    This should not be surprising information. It is possible she'll still suck even with instruction. No pun intended.
     
  8. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Can't worry about offending her. In matters of sex and relationships you have to be open and honest. If she freaks out on you then she's not the girl for you.
     
  9. Lee55055

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    Yea this is what I figured, thanks. I'll definitely give this a go next time. I mean she has to know she isn't that skilled when I stop her after a few minutes everytime to do it myself haha.
     
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    i disagree. There are definitely approaches you could take that are going to piss her off unnecessarily. You don't have to say anything implying that she's no good at it, just maybe that you would prefer her to do things a different way. The point is for you to not embarrass her so she's afraid to even try. Don't wreck her self-esteem on it, but you can still get your point across.
     
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    Is that how you learned your amazing bj skills? I heard you were quite good....apparently you do this thing with your tongue?
     
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    giver her feed back while she's doing it. if she's doing something right, make sure she knows it. positive feedback and encouragement.

    if you're always telling her how bad she's doing or how she's doing it wrong, she may become self-conscious about it and become more reluctant in giving head.

    practice makes perfect.
     
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    Really? My dad never seemed too impressed. She must've saved the good stuff for you.
     
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    Is this really that big of a deal? Sometimes he just can't finish from me doing it alone, and does it, but I always swallow... I actually really like it because I can watch him (guys O faces are :naughty: ) instead of having my face pointed downwards.
     
  15. Falconer

    Falconer OT Supporter

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    best answer:
    instruct her during the act

    marginal answer:
    have her watch sativa rose and heather ("ideepthroat" heather) porn and copy their techniques

    bad answer:
    grab her head and shove it down onto your cock
     
  16. Lee55055

    Lee55055 New Member

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    I mean I still enjoy it because it feels amazing to bust in her mouth, even if I have to finish myself. Preferably I would just like it if she would give better head. After being with a few girls that are just that damn good at doing it, they set the bar high for girls that follow and I expect more out of it. But yea, I'll slowly try to nicely instruct her and see where that will get me.
     
  17. Jimeigh

    Jimeigh Every rook and jay in the corvidae have been raven

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    what i think you meant to say, was that she should do her homework and google "how to give a blowjob" to bone up for the oral exam
     
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    what I did with mine was I'd pick one thing, and one thing only, and tell her about it, but not sound annoyed, and told her the rest of it was great.

    After about a month she was a champ :bigthumb:
     
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    gotta make sure to praise her when she's doing good if you're going to criticize her when she's doing bad
     
  20. LaurenAshley

    LaurenAshley We are all made of stars

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    tell her to read OT Vag archives.
     
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    My ex didn't like getting blowjobs. And I like to take my time when giving a bj, and my mouth gets tired and numb after a period of time. And judging by his responses, I don't think I'm doing a bad job at all. Plus, how do you factor in the pre-sex bj, obviously she isn't going to get out off before sex, does that mean she is giving shitty head?
     
  22. Falconer

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    it's not a blowjob if it's pre-sex foreplay head. and it dosnt mean she should hold back, either :big grin:
     
  23. bearsdidit

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    practice and communication my friend... you have to give her positive reinforcement when she is doing something you enjoy. IMO, being a good sexual partner involves being generous when it comes to pleasing the other person.
     
  24. squall458

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    Let her come over to my place and I will give her some pointers. You can have her back when I'm done. :p
     

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