ive been holding a grudge against my dad for a while now for among other things, cheating on my mother, me finding out and having to tell her, blowing her retirement $$$ on this woman ($60k+) and most lately he flipped out and "disowned" me because i was suspicious about something he was doing and called him out on it.. i know forgiving someone is supposed to be healing and i don't want to hang onto it anymore. we aren't on speaking terms anymore. he doesn't understand how much he hurt me/the family. he wrote me a birthday card with a message that was basically "sorry for the way things are" not specific or heartfelt (others confirm this, not just me being biased). he insists that he was conned by the woman he cheated with. i want to forgive and move on but he doesn't see anything worth being sorry for anyway. what do i do?