MIL how do you do it?

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  1. atm123

    atm123 New Member

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    i was just wondering for the folks that are in a relationship within the military, how do you maintain a relationship? my best friend is overseas in Iraq and is in a long term relationship with his girl. I am no doubt jealous. How can he succeed with an overseas relationship while i cant even have a lasting relationship for more than a month. What is your secret? Help a brother out :bowdown:
     
  2. whitecouch

    whitecouch spendin' our golden years in OT Supporter

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    Trust and a quality foundation.
     
  3. mikdavi84

    mikdavi84 OT Supporter

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    she is getting dicked on the side.


    seriously though, trust.
     
  4. Jyokker

    Jyokker The trouser snake is very aggressive. It will corn

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  5. Liddy

    Liddy Not enough cowbell.

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    Trust and respect.
     
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    aftershock- rawr -.-

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    my wife and myself are both in the military. shes deploying to iraq in feb/march. its gonna be tough, but well get through it. just got to have trust for each other.
     
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    whitecouch spendin' our golden years in OT Supporter

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    That helps. We've moved up in the world since those days though :cool:
     
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    greenpillow New Member

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    Knowing it will be full of ups and downs and knowing the downs will not last forever.. but possibly a very long time..
     
  9. whitecouch

    whitecouch spendin' our golden years in OT Supporter

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    I can definitely see that one. I've seen it happen. A lot.
     
  10. bloodred83

    bloodred83 im in ur cost gard, savin' ur boatz

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    Yup. When I fly back to NYC for xmas and the new year on leave it'll have been 6 months since I've last been with my SO. I plan on proposing to her when I go. I've been with her for just over 3 years now and I couldn't trust anyone else in my life more than I do her. You need to build a solid relationship before any long deployments from each other, that's for sure.

    Her being busy with her final year of school for her masters helps the situation too. She's up at 7am and doesn't get home 'til 9-10pm Mon-Fri. God bless her. :bowdown:
     
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    FD929 New Member

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    After 2.5 years, 9 mos in Iraq, about $10k and a 2 week trip to Australia that lasted 3 days, mine just called it quits. Trust is one thing but don't be oblivious to the signs and trust your own instincts. 9 times out of 10, you'll be right.
     
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    you hear "what happenes on the island stays on the island" so im sure the saying "what happens on deployment stay on deployment" is the same.
     
  13. SweetDaddyO

    SweetDaddyO we need a montage!!

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    most of those relationships fail
     
  14. Ranger-AO

    Ranger-AO I'm here for the Taliban party. Moderator

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    Men that cheat on their wives during their deployments are just as shitty as wives that cheat on their men. :mad:
     
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    whitecouch spendin' our golden years in OT Supporter

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    Another one is "What goes TDY stays TDY." Either way cheaters are cheaters and should be regarded as such.:squint:
     
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    don't look at me like that Mr whitecouch lolz.. im like a virgen again!
     
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    Because Jody is keeping her busy on the side and he's fucking a company whore.
     
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    The odds are against you regardless because of the burden it places upon the relationship.

    Definitely requires a strong foundation built upon trust though.
     
  20. Liddy

    Liddy Not enough cowbell.

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    Everytime it kind of gets tough for me, I read The Prophet by Khalil Gibran... it's a lot of hippy bs mumbo jumbo but this part about marriage/relationships always snaps me back into reality:

     

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