How do you distinguish between shyness and lack of interest?

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  1. R KriLLz

    R KriLLz Uncomfortable in my own skin.

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    I have a feeling this girl gets really nervous around me, and in turn does things that make her seem like shes not interested.
    I don't know, maybe she feels like she doesnt have enough to offer me... but i really like her.

    orrr maybe im a cocky asshole and she's just really friendly to everyone at first. We hit it off really well at work, then she kinda started withdrawing.
    whatever, shes 18 and kinda girly. (as opposed to being a woman knowing what she wants.)

    to build on this.... I'm generally interested in some of the things ya'll have learned to break through a girls armor.
    you know those girls that are totally silent, but they are just begging for someone to work with their lack of social skills?
     
  2. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Why not just ask her out? If you've known her a while and haven't made a move then of course you're not going to really know how she feels. Make a move and you will have your answer.
     
  3. If she acts nervous you will know, acting nervous is backing away but still being in your general vicinity, still looking in your direction or eager to know what is going on.
    If she has a lack of interest it becomes clear, through her actions and her words.

    Beast
     
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    Takitome New Member

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    I agree. It seems to be rather easy to distinguish the two.
     
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    slamduncan New Member

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    You said you think you hit it off pretty good at work. Is she a co-worker, or are you a supervisor, etc... Maybe this has something to do with her behavior?
     
  6. Yail Bloor

    Yail Bloor OT Supporter

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    dating your co-workers is a horrible idea, unless you can easily change jobs

    if shit goes south, she will get all the support, and you will be blamed for everything by your co-workers
     
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    I'd say you have to know what they're usually like around guys they are into. Perhaps ask her friends if you know them?

    ha, it reminds me of a recent hook-up I had. Stranger with a friend. I completely believed she wasn't into me but her friend persisted that I make a move and that the girl was just shy. Turns out her friend was right :)
     
  8. R KriLLz

    R KriLLz Uncomfortable in my own skin.

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    ^^ did she open up immediately once you made your move? like she was waiting for it.

    or did you have to chip away at some brick and mortar?
     
  9. Chip Chipperson

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    uhmmm why don't you grow a pair of testicular ellipsoids, put them in a sack, attach them to a pipe, glue them to your vagina, and make a move to find out?

    but i echo yail's sentiments on dating a woman from work... UGHHH
     
  10. R KriLLz

    R KriLLz Uncomfortable in my own skin.

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    not with me man...

    take that "I appear to know everything about women because i spend a ridiculous amount of time on the internet reading and re-reading all the PUA material ever and regurgitate it (like a dick) on here" stuff elsewhere.

    your dedication to being a badass on a getting laid board is suspect.

    you assumed, so can I.


    I never COULD make a move because we had too many mutual friends at work.
    The situation made me want to discuss the topic in a broader sense. notice the line "to build on this..."

    seriously, don't talk to people like that.
     
  11. Yail Bloor

    Yail Bloor OT Supporter

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    this is a limiting belief.

    "paralysis by analysis" - you use your intellect to concoct a myriad of scenarios in which you cannot succeed

    and because you are what you think and believe, you don't take action because you are too busy with the nightmare scenarios of what could possibly go wrong, instead of focusing on what could go right
     
  12. R KriLLz

    R KriLLz Uncomfortable in my own skin.

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    These are good friends that would get jealous that she liked me over them.
    I'm seeing other women anyway.
    i don't need that drama. :nono:
     
  13. Yail Bloor

    Yail Bloor OT Supporter

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    bottom line this:

    Do you want her, or not?
     
  14. R KriLLz

    R KriLLz Uncomfortable in my own skin.

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    ^yeah, but i can't. :(

    I've always had trouble disarming shy people.. that was my main motivation behind this post.
     
  15. You want to learn how to disarm shy people?

    Make the first move. :rofl:
     
  16. Chip Chipperson

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    :nono: not with me man...
     
  17. Let's hear your method then.
     
  18. Yail Bloor

    Yail Bloor OT Supporter

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    Its very simple: shy girls don't get to be with you.

    All this stuff we preach for guys to "get out of their comfort zone" etc.

    That goes for women as well.

    Shy girls lose out. Their loss.
     

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