How do you define being "over" someone?

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  1. ForgottenSpiral

    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    It just occurred to me that we throw this term around a lot when we talk about exs. We tell people to "get over them", "you aren't over your ex", etc., but what does that mean to everyone? What qualifies you as being over someone?
     
  2. ForevererZero89

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    when you feel you no longer need them. there is no set definition and everyone is different. even YOU will be different from person to person.
     
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    When you dont make these threads... :mamoru:.







    :rofl:


    jk bro
     
  4. ForgottenSpiral

    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    :rofl: I'm not even asking for myself. I just hear the terminology tossed around often enough that I thought it would be good to get some opinions on what it actually means. :dunno:
     
  5. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    When you couldn't care less that they are dating someone new.
     
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    This. You could not have given a shit about someone for MONTHS, but as soon as you hear he/she is dating someone new, that's the real test.
     
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    dumb_end_user Sad Gus

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    If you are asking the question you are not "over" them.
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  8. antihero

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    I must say I'm really looking at things in a new light. Its been 8 months and I still doubt i ever make it a whole day without thinking about her. :ugh:

    jealousy is so weird. If I can't have them or don't want them, then why would i care?
     
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    dumb_end_user Sad Gus

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    couldn't care less :mad:
     
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    I disagree, I don't feel I need my ex at all, but I have no clue if I am over her. She is dating someone new and I couldn't care less, but when I go home I get weird feelings because I rarely go home from college.
     
  11. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    :mamoru: I literally was just coming back to edit that
     
  12. themolsen

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    "this town is full of dumb reminders"

    :dunno: Associations formed in our brain are hard to break.
     
  13. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    STFU :eek3: you a NUFAN fan???
     
  14. peoplescar

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    i agree with this. this is why the whole cut all contact thing is probably your best approach.
     
  15. Falconer

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    When you don't miss them or wish you were still together anymore.

    When you realize "my life is better now without them."
     
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    hell yes I am! STFU! :eek3:

    IN FACT, there are a few NUFAN songs that helped me through my breakup a few months ago :mamoru:
     
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    that why i also said that there is no real/set definition of when you are "over" someone.


    ive gone an entire year pining over someone, and it was hell.
     
  18. dumb_end_user

    dumb_end_user Sad Gus

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    :h5:
     
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    I wouldn't call what ive been doing pining... in fact ive been doing rather the opposite :hs:
     
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    When you are completely honest with yourself and are happy with the thought of never being romantically attached to the person again.

    And as others have put it, when you couldn't care less about what they are doing with their life now that you aren't in it.

    Some people say you never truly get over your first love, you just learn to accept that and not let it interfere with your life or your relationships going forward.

    Who knows how long it takes, I'll let you know if I am ever over my ex. :mamoru:
     
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  22. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    So weird man...you're pretty much the only person who is also a fan

    "can't change the future when living in the past" ;)
     
  23. Falconer

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    wtf is NUFAN?
     
  24. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    No Use For A Name

    they're an old punk band
     
  25. Falconer

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    Sounds familiar. I think my old roommate used to listen to them.
     

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