I'd like to get some opinions on how some of you deal with jealousy, as far as your significant other spending a lot of time with a member of the opposite sex. STORY: I just got back from visiting my GF or almost 2 years (We have a LDR for the summer). While I was there I noticed every morning/night she would be messaging a guy-friend of her's on Facebook. She never said anything about it, and when I asked she would avoid the topic. She NEVER brings him up in conversation, either on the phone, or e-mail. If I didn't look over her shoulder and see that message, and I would no idea they were really close friends. While I was visiting her, they didn't talk much and I met the guy. But, her Facebook was open one day, (I was snooping, is this crossing the line?) and I noticed they have been messaging each other for awhile and plan a lot of things together (dancing, dinner with friends, pick-up soccer games with other people and stuff). Most recently she has agreed to be his dance partner for a class he is taking (He is not gay, I swear). Like I said before, she never brings him up in conversation, and usually never even tells me what she does during her free time unless I ask. Sometimes when I ask, it's vague like "Hung out with people". Also, recently she has been more "Oh, I miss you..I wish I was with you, etc..etc.." It just started happening recently, like all of a sudden she started saying these things. So, even though I don't want to feel jealous, but I can't help myself! She messed up last summer, but I'm over that...We have talked a lot about it, and I don't think she would ever do it again. We have been talking about our relationship (as far as keeping the romance alive) lately as well. Am I in the wrong for snooping in her facebook? What do you guys do as far as battling jealousy? Sorry this is so long. Cliffs: GF lives 2,200 miles away this summer. GF is messaging other dude on facebook. I snoop. GF is dancing (once or twice a week, there is a usually a group, but I guess they dance together a lot because he teaches her how to swingdance) and hanging out with him, but doesn't openly tell me about it. How do you deal with feelings of jealousy?