Its not THAT big an issue for me, as I have tons of friends I can always chill with, but the dude in question has been my best friend for nearly thirteen years, so obviously I miss chilling out with him. When he's single he's always around with me and my other friends that are part of that specific social circle, and we all have a great time, however when he gets a girlfriend he literally disappears off the radar, and friday and saturday nights he chooses to spend with his girlfriend. Thats not a problem for me, as I live in a different city for college, so obviously am not around most weekends, but I have been home for the past four weeks (semester break) and every weekend he has shrugged me off in favour of spending time with his girlfriend. I wouldnt mind if we hung out during the week, but he works nightshift so obviously cant socialise at the times when we usually do. Lately, when I've called him up to chill, even offering to buy him a beer or two (which worked in the past to get him out) he's point blank refused, the climax coming today when I called him up for the first time since Tuesday and asked if he would like to come out for a few beers with his best friend before I go back to college for two months... he told me he was too busy, as he had to tidy his room (I rang at 5pm, we're not usually out til 10pm ) and that for me was the final straw as I know him inside out, and I know if his girlfriend had called up he would have bent over backwards to go and see her Meh, am I being a bit over-sensitive? Its not the first time he's done it, and when his relationships fail (mainly due to not giving his girlfriends personal time and space) he is always asking me, or the group of friends if we're doing anything that weekend. Last night me and the group were talking about how pissed off we get with him disappearing off the radar for months at a time, to return when he is single. Another thing, he's 22 and 9 months, his girlfriend is 16 and 2 months, so what the hell do they have in common to spend all that time together? Advice?