how do you break up with somebody who you care about..?

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  1. euro_R

    euro_R OT Supporter

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    sigh..gonna keep this short as possible..

    ex broke up with me last year october and it really fucked me up..met a new girl sometime in november and we decided to keep it on a friendly level but we had some good chemistry and what not..she's a great girl..so january we took it to the next level and made it official..

    the problem is as of late, i dont think i want a relationship anymore..im still not really over my ex and its not fair to the new girl because i dont feel i can give her my all just yet..sometimes when she wants to see me, i jus want to be by myself or with my (male) friends :hsd:..shes a great girl as i said before, but i just dont want a relationship right now..i just want to work on myself and im tired of feeling guilty thinking about my ex when im with her :hs:

    ive been feeling like this from before but its really starting to get tiring. and i want to end it soon..problem is the girl is so obsessed with me, im so scared of breaking her heart..i really do care about her and i know this will will probly hurt her badly because she's been in some pretty shitty relationships before and was basically never happy..:hs:



    i know what needs to be done, but i just want to know how..:o

    how do i soften the blow..

    i wanted to do it this week, but her birthday is saturday, that would have sucked..:o






    cliffs: in a relationship right now, great girl, things are good. i just dont want a relationship right now...how do i end it..



    halp!!
     
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  2. Ago816

    Ago816 New Member

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    Say you made the decision that you want to be alone and you feel bad hurting her but you can't help it.
     
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    vodkacollins New Member

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    short, sweet and to the point. the truth is always the best. if she wants to be with you, shes going to be upset no matter what you say, but its always best to just tell the truth.
     
  4. PcH

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    Why'd you get in a relationship in the first place?
     
  5. euro_R

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    at this point, i dont know..i guess at the time it seemed like the right thing to do..boy do i regret it :sad2:
     
  6. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Honesty is the best policy.
     
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    :sad2:
     
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    There is no softening the blow. You just have to man up and do it. Break up with her at her place though so you have an escape route. Breaking up with someone at your place is a bad idea.

    And I agree with vodka. Best to tell the truth.
     
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    Atleast she'll have some closure that you're not over your ex.
     
  10. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    It sucks, but bending the truth can fuck her up worse in the end.

    You're best off admitting you tried to fill the void of your ex and she was a great girl, but time has gone on and you just don't feel ready for anything serious.
     
  11. PcH

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    if you just wanted some, you prob should've been straightforward :o
     
  12. euro_R

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    thanks guys :sadwavey:
     
  13. euro_R

    euro_R OT Supporter

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    it wasnt that..i starting hitting it a week after we met :o :mamoru:
     
  14. PcH

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    oh. well then. i dont know. +1 for telling the truth. it'll be tough, but all things that are worth it in life can be tough.
     
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    The fact that you already has sex with her is going to make it a bit more messy, because then it seems as if you used her while on the rebound. No girl likes being the rebound fuck.

    That being said, honesty is still your best policy.

    When my LTR chick dumped me a few years back I made the mistake of dating right away as well. It was nice hanging out with new chicks to keep my mind occupied, but once I started seeing them more often I had the same feelings as you. One chick I dated for like 4-6 weeks even though I knew I was not ready. I was honest with her and told her pretty much what you're saying (not into it, not over ex, need time alone), etc.... And just like you, when she would call to hang out or the weekend would come and I'd feel obligated to setup a date with her I would just think about how I wanted to chill alone or go out with buddies.

    Anyway, I was honest with her, and although she got pissed and stalked me for a couple weeks via text/phone calls it ended up pretty well.
    The other chicks I dated around that time I just kinda stopped calling and stopped answering their calls/texts. It kinda worked itself out, lol.

    You looking to preserve a friendship here?
     
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    Be a man about it. Sit her down face-to-face and tell her she's cool but you don't want a relationship. Did you really need to start a thread about something so basic? :hsugh:
     
  17. Diesel66

    Diesel66 My standards for women is like rent-a-centers stan OT Supporter

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    let her catch you with her sister.
     
  18. euro_R

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    yes i am, but if it doesnt work out..ahh well, life goes on :hs:
     
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    Cant do it for atleast 6 months
     
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    its done :hs:

    she took it better than i expected i guess..

    i feel like shit
     
  21. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    detailssssssssss
     
  22. euro_R

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    well i went over to her place..told her ive done some thinking and maybe we should just be friends..

    told her i think i rushed into the relationship (which is true) and im honestly not ready to give my all and its not fair to her..

    i tried to stay away from all the details and all the issues that she has (yes she had some issues that bothered me and was pretty much wearing me out)..

    i said a bunch of other things, most of which i dont even remember now...


    i think i did the right thing :hsd: im honestly not sad about ending the relationship, i just feel bad for hurting her feelings..

    i feel like such an asshole :(
     
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    You'll want her back, or will be in a new relationship 1-2 months tops... Just saying...
     
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    you did the right thing. :h5:
     
  25. euro_R

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    no :rofl:

    im not one to need a SO to be happy..
     

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