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  1. Tom Vann

    Tom Vann OT Supporter

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    Tell this girl that I work with that I wanna go out with her? we talk on the phone on a daily basis and see each other at work but I just don't what to tell her.
     
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    u wanna hang out sometime
     
  3. Tom Vann

    Tom Vann OT Supporter

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    We have hung out once already, but I guess what I meant to say is how do I tell her I wanna start a relationship with her.
     
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    u wanna hang out at my place sometime
     
  5. Aronomy

    Aronomy Get your COME ON!

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    Oftentimes, there is no formal "asking out" where the question is bluntly asked. It just happens along the way. Atleast that's been my experience.
     
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    Well...just, beware what can happen when you date someone at work..
     
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    yeah, if it goes wrong it might get weird for some time at work.
     
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    i would steer clear if i were you, but if it can't be avoided, just keep asking her if she wants to kick it and then make your move before its too late and you're stuck in the friendzone
     
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    1. Don't date anyone at work.
    2. Don't ask out anyone with whom you have known for more than about 1-2 months.
    3. Ask potential partners out by saying "Hey, you seem pretty cool. How would you like to go on a date with me to Starbucks? This Tuesday, 7:00. Yeah?"

    If you get ANY excuses, other than to pick a different day, then she is not interested in you and you have saved yourself a ton of hassle. If she agrees, she now knows you are interested romantically and is up for it.
     
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    quoted for damn truth.
     
  11. bimmer318

    bimmer318 I'm out of applesauce

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    I'd date someone at work From a different department or if you worked in a seasonal job like me... But not if you talk on a phone every day and see each other every day. It won't work...
     
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  13. PocoDiablo

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    I have seen at least a dozen sexual harrasment lawsuits, fist fights from jealous lovers, and people get blacklisted from jobs. I have also seen guys make a move on a woman and then find out that their BOSS liked the same woman, so the new guy gets fired for "performance" reasons.

    If you can afford to lose your job, go for it. If you can also afford to have to list "Yes, I have been terminated from a position in the past" on your next job application, go for it. If you can also afford to lose the reference from that job, go for it.

    I personally worked with my girlfriend (at the time, then wife, now ex-wife) to get two guys fired for sexual harrasment who hit on her at the office. They made the moves, she refused, they didn't know when to stop, so we got them fired. Both were managers and were very high up. Rank knows no limits for breaking rules.
     
  14. Tom Vann

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    Thanks for all the advice
     

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