SRS How do I mend an old friendship?

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  1. Slurms McKenzie

    Slurms McKenzie New Member

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    I feel like I ruined my friendships with two of my favorite buddy's, I got a job and a girl and they sort of fell off the radar. What should I do to fix this? I don't know how they feel about it though, any suggestions? How do I make up with out being a fag? :hs:
     
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    Hey <name>, how have you been? It has been a while since we have <activity>, want to go <time frame>? I was just thinking about <insert memorable bonding moment narrative> and thought it'd be nice to catchup. Talk to you soon!
     
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    Slurms McKenzie New Member

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    It's so damn simple.
     
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    it really is.



    and when you're at, at some point early on mention "I feel like a shit for not calling for so long......." and then you're back to being friends. it's one of the perks of being a guy.
     
  5. BoomBoomBoy

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    Why is it your responsibility to maintain the friendship exclusively? Did you ignore their calls? Didn't answer their knocks?

    If not, I don't think an apology is necessary. Just give them a call, and schedule a get together.
     
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    :werd: pretty much guaranteed to work!
     
  7. Mr J

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    I've had really good friends who've done that to me. Got a girl or something then not spoke to me for a year or so, then they try to come back into my life but it's just not the same. It might just be me but I always resented them for completely ignoring me for so long then just acting like nothing happened.
     
  8. teo

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    Did you try several times to initiate calls and activities? If so, you're justified. But if you just waited for the phone to ring, you're just as much to blame.
     
  9. Mr J

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    Yep.

    After hearing "Nah dude, staying in with the girl tonight..." for about the 6th time I gave up
     
  10. Thascius

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    This is a good point to keep in mind. You don't have to belabour the issue, but you should tell your friends that you're aware that you didn't act as well as you could have, and apologize for it. If they're like most guys, you should be able to pick up where you left off without too much difficulty.
     
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    are you that guy that ditches all his friends when he gets a g/f?
     

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