How do I know If I can trust her?

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  1. Mr. Kitty Litter

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    I've been knowing/talking to this girl on and off for some odd 3 years now. Jan 1, 2005 we made it "official". The thing is, throughout all of the ups and downs, I just don't know if I can really trust her. I mean, she hasn't really done anything that would make me question her integrity, but she has had a rough past with her ex (abusive, treated her like shit, controlling, etc....it goes a lot deeper). Not like that has anything to do with it. I guess I may just be a little insecure. I'm just so confused. I really want to be with her, and she really is a nice girl, I just need like something....one sign, signal, action, or whatever to know that I can actually be totally 100% into her. Anyone?
     
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    go for it...what do you have to be afraid of?
     
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    Don't want to sound "soft" or anything...but, I just don't want to get hurt. :hs:
    I don't open up to many people, but with her I am almost there, I just want to make sure the coast is clear before I truly open my heart to this girl. I couldn't take being taken advantage of.
     
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    As long as she doesn't have a history of cheating, and hasn't done anything you find questionable, what's your problem? You sound like you're trying to make something from nothing here; so I guess I don't truly know what your problem is.
     
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    you wont know if you can trust her till her trust has been tested and she does the right thing.
     
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    If you spend your life trying not to get hurt, you'll never even be able to experience anything. But really if you have no reason not to trust her, then you should trust her.
     
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    Be careful with this statement, though, Lauren. You're kinda implying that he should play a mind game to see if he can trust her; those kind of things can backfire very easily if you don't play it right. Best not to cause drama by playing stupid games/tests. Let a test occur naturally, it'll ultimately be the best way.
     
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    oh yeha, no tricks/test please. just saying, you wont know for sure, until you do. but dont play games/tricks.


    eerr...something like that :rofl:
     
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    I wouldn't play any mind games... but I do wish something would come up that would test things out, so I can know what the deal is...
     
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    so, almost a year later. do you trust her?
     
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    I think I'm about to be single...until I can overcome my trust issues :hs:
     
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    :hs: You've had almost a year with this girl and she's done nothing to show you that you can't trust her? then why shouldn't you trust her?
    nothing is going to ever appear telling you that you can trust her.
    to put it another way, she can only do to things: cheat on you or not cheat on you. if she doesn't do the first, which is betrayal of trust, then she is doing the second, which should show that you can trust her.

    get me?
     
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    Yeh. I think I need to just let my guards down.
    I've been cheated on in the past by someone I was REALLY into. I think that has something to do with it.
     
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    The only person that you can truly trust is yourself.

    I would try to trust her until it has been broken. Otherwise, you are going to just stress about it and your relationship will be over before you know it.
     

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