How do I improve my sex drive/libido?

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  1. DramaQueen

    DramaQueen New Member

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    HELP PLEASE!!!!How do I improve my sex drive/libido?

    Just wondering if anyone has any tips or tricks on how to improve a sex drive.....I've been with my boyfriend for almost a 1.5 now...I love him very much....and when we do have sex it's great...but it doesn't happen very often, maybe once or twice a week......His libido is way greater than mine...and it's been bothering me before a little...and now I found out yesterday that it bothered him all along...since day one :wtc: ...but he just never mentioned anything...I'm attracted to him...I think he's a great person...he's my best friend....but then what's wrong with me? why don't I get turned on more often:ugh: ....he's saying that he feels like he can never turn me on...that it's only when i'm already turned on that we have amazing sex..and it feels good for both of us....
    I don't know what to do....I probably need something like viagra for women or something...:dunno:
     
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    IreLynx New Member

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    From what I've always heard, 2-3 times a week is average for most people. You say sex doesn't happen very often for you, but I would consider twice a week to be fairly often; my fiancee & I are less often than that. If you ask me it seems like your libido is in good shape. He's a guy, so it's almost expected to find him to have a more active libido. If you don't feel a need for sex outside of those 2 sessions a week, and you are fully satisfied with the results of each, then I'd say you're fine & there's nothing to worry about.
     
  3. NJGuy

    NJGuy "Fuckmefuckmefuckmefuckmef uckmefuckmefuckmefuckm OT Supporter

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    I'd watch two hours of porn every night without masturbating...
    But since your a chicky... I Dunno. Read Danelle Steel novels?
     
  4. CelesteLeSonne

    CelesteLeSonne DEWmocracy

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    does he just not know how to turn you on?
    or does he always do the exact same thing [so it's kinda old]?
    try new a diff. things like dressing up, role play, doing romantic things for one another,...
     
  5. Soren

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    thats just how women are. :dunno:
     
  6. Sionell89

    Sionell89 I grew up when I wasn't looking

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    Are you on the pill? If so, if you get off of it, most likely your libido will go way up. If you don't want to get off the pill, well, that is the price you pay for peace of mind.

    The other thing is you just might be in a rut. If your guy is less than happy about the frequency of sex, perhaps he might think about what he can do to make you want to have more. And I'm not talking about flowers or massages or better oral. In every day life, you get busy. You're not going to be particularly horney is you're worried about making sure that he has laundry done so he doesn't embarass you by looking like a slob. How often does he CARE for you? Takes the initiative to have dinner ready, and really just take time to BE with you. It's amazing how that little thing can help create an environment where you are connect. Once you have a space for that warm fuzzy feeling, the libido will come. Women are very mental and emotional creatures. Men often don't realize that stimulation on those fronts, with variety so it's not taken for granted, is more effective than the world's best oral.
     

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