Ok...so I'm not one to normally ask for advice...I'm stubborn like that, but I am at a point where I don't know what to do. I know this is long, but I'm looking for some input on the situation Some background...my ex-gf and I were friends in high school, but really got to be decent friends our senior year. We were both in serious relationships at the time, though there was always the casual flirting, nothing ever happened. Well a decent amount of time went by and we ended up staying local and go to the same college. We stopped talking for awhile, but as of last year we had started to make some contact (mind you we graduated high school in 2005). So only a few years had gone by, I had ended my relationship, she had ended hers, we had both dated a few other people. Well somehow back in December we ended up talking and hanging out quite a bit and started dating in January. We only dated for a few months until I broke it off at the beginning of May. She had been a friend for A LONG time and we have a lot of mutual friends, so I did not want things to end poorly between us and I truly though I could try to be friends with her. This goes against everything I had done previously that had worked perfectly fine for me, which is that an ex is an ex. While things remain civil, I make it a point to not try to stay friends with ex's for the mess it creates. However, because of our past I really wanted to try to be friends so things weren't awkward if we ran into each other out at the bars one weekend or something. She agreed and wanted to be friends still, but I let her know that I would want some space because even though I was the one who wanted to call the relationship quits, it would still be difficult and awkward to just jump back into trying to be friends. She agreed and said she would give me some space, but ended up texting me almost everyday for a couple weeks. I finally told her that was not my idea of space and we got into a heated argument after she told me she would respect my space and then ended up showing up at my house unannounced. We resolved things from there and she said she would give me my space for real. Things actually did change and that was about a month ago. The past month I've had a lot of shit going on in my life, between summer classes, trying to figure out where I'm going to live next year, serious problems with one of my roommates (who has been my best friend for 8 years), my mom about to change jobs, etc. Because of this I've been avoiding pretty much everyone else besides the people I would see due to my roommates inviting people over. I hadn't talked to my ex for this entire month and was actually thinking about texting her now that a lot of that shit has been resolved. However, last night while under the influence of liquid courage, she asked one of our mutual friends for my number (she claimed today that apparently if she has my number she can't refrain from texting me). She ends up texting me at 1:30AM, while I was asleep to ask if I was awake or not. I told her I was asleep because I had to go to church in the morning. Long story short, she ended up not leaving me alone telling me how much she misses me and everyone knows it and I briefly explained how I could not talk at that time, but would explain everything the next day while I was driving back to to AR for school. This was not the first time she has told me she missed me, which is what led to me not feeling rushed to try to talk to her the past month. Today as I was driving home, we talked briefly and I explained the stuff that has been going on in my life, how I haven't hardly talked to anyone this last month. I also explained that since she keeps telling me how much she misses me, it enforces in my mind the idea that I don't think she is over the relationship yet, and cannot see me as just a friend when we hang out. I fear that if we did hang out things would be messy or start to get messy. She told me she woke up extremely pissed at me last week, which is why when she got drunk she finally had the courage to tell me this. Pissed that I hadn't talked to her for a month. She told me that she doesn't know how to explain it, but that she IS over the relationship and that it's my fault for not being able to understand that. She also told me I was being a shitty friend for not telling her and talking to her about all of the problems in my life and not talking to her for a month. I honestly feel like I have done nothing wrong. I understand her to be upset with me for not talking to me, but I feel like she keeps proving that she cannot let go of our relationship. Because of this I am extremely hesitant to keep talking to her and even start hanging out with her. She is probably moving away in the next few months, and I honestly don't think we will keep up with each other as much as I do with other friends. Am I in the wrong for feeling like I do, or do I just need to get over it? After she called me a shitty friend I basically felt like she was taking out her frustration on me that things didn't end up like she wanted. The conversation ended fairly abruptly after that. I just don't know what to do. I feel like I should just cut all contact with her like I've done every other ex-gf, but since she has been a friend for so long and we have mutual friends I would feel bad about doing it. CLIFFS: Good friend and I start dating, it ends after 4 1/2 months. I feel like she isn't over me yet, she claims she is, yet tells me she misses me every time she is drunk. What do I do about it?