My wife and I don't see eachother very often (long distance, jobs etc.). Since we've been married (almost 2.5 years) we see eachother about 2 a month for a weekend. She's on "The Pill". We'd only had sex a couple of times before we were married. When we see eachother on a Friday night she doesn't want to. She says she "has to get used to me again." On Saturday night or Sunday morning we'll finally have sex. Only once a visit maybe twice (Sat night and Sunday maybe). Then we have to leave. She doesn't like to have sex for too long because she starts to hurt (no matter what I do; slow, barely moving). She just lays there. She also doesn't want to try any other positions other than missionary. I was thinking of asking her to discontinue 'the pill'. I heard that it can inhibit a womans sexual desire. I'd happily use a condom if it meant she enjoyed it more. In about six months we'll finally be able to live together, maybe things'll get better then.