SRS How do I deal with a picky eater?

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  1. Slurms McKenzie

    Slurms McKenzie New Member

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    The lady just doesn't eat anything, her idea of a delishious meal is mac-n-cheese and bread. :sad2:

    My favorite meal is Sushi and it's impossible to ever eat it cause she makes me feel horrible no matter what I do. I tried getting sushi takeout, then getting her McDonalds (her request) and she was still mad at me for no reason.

    Right now I'm trying to get her to go to one of those Japanese restarauts where they grill in front of you, and she wont even try it. She like terryaki chicken and egg rolls...but since this place also makes sushi it's going to be gross. :wtc:

    Help?
     
  2. korverftw

    korverftw New Member

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    I feel your pain dude. I wish I had some suggestions.
     
  3. 1stgenrocks

    1stgenrocks New Member

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    ditch her. you wont change her and theres plenty of girls out there that like good food. im in the same boat since i like almost all food so most people are more picky then i am
     
  4. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    If she's that picky and close-minded just about food, there's no telling how big a moron she is about other more important decisions.
     
  5. Midgetized

    Midgetized Don't mess with Douche Cat

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    Find someone who doesn't treat you like shit. Why the hell would you put up with someone who makes you feel bad over what food you eat? :ugh:
     
  6. disley

    disley Ooooh no it isn't. Ooooh yes it is. OT Supporter

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    Can you imagine what size she'll become if she only eats fast food!
     
  7. lick wid nit wit

    lick wid nit wit Official OT Oracle

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    I'm one of those "picky eaters", not so much by choice but by food allergies. I'm allergic to all seafood so sushi is pretty much out. I don't care for non-fish sushi anyways.

    If you want to go get sushi, go with your buddies. if she's being a daft cow because you want sushi takeout and you bring her something she likes, well, she's got issues. I wouldn't care.

    My last boyfriend was a "meat & potatoes" guy and would never go for Thai with me. So I went with friends.

    If you really feel this woman is worth it in all other aspects, leave her alone about her picky eating. I can't imagine it would be pleasant if my boyfriend was constantly harassing me about my dietary needs (or wants) all because he wants to eat sushi all the time.....
     
  8. BoomBoomBoy

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    How is she on everything else? I can't really see you forcing your tastes in food on her (really only works on smalll children).

    Either decide this is a deal breaker, or strike up a compromise.

    Eat at Surf & Turf eateries.
     
  9. lick wid nit wit

    lick wid nit wit Official OT Oracle

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    This!!!

    I might have eating "issues" stemming from allergies but I wouldn't get pissy with my man because he wants to eat sushi and I don't.

    Something deeper is going on with her, methinks....
     
  10. johan

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    this
     
  11. D7

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    When you go out to eat, does she ever ask where you want to go? Then you could suggest somewhere new.

    How long have you been dating and has she been this way the whole time?
     
  12. Darketernal

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    I am an extremely picky eater, there's not much i can eat. I like sweets and my SO likes bitter things. In other words, we never eat the same thing, i just eat my thing and my SO eats bitter things, and we just let eachother be and are at peace with that. Its no use forcing your gf to eat the things she doesn't like, you just eat your sushi and say to her that she doesn't have to eat it, you just goto the japanese food stall and get a package of sushi, and get her french fries or whatever and just eat at home the things you both like. You don't have to eat at the restaurant you know, you can also order things and just drive to a beautifull sunset or lightning storm and eat and watch in a park or bench or maby *but bad habit* eat in the car. :sad2: yeah its hard i know.
     
  13. lick wid nit wit

    lick wid nit wit Official OT Oracle

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    This!!!!!

    this is what my ex and I did. Or we'd go to restaurants that catered to both our tastes. He never went with me to get Thai food but never had issues with me bringing it home and bringing him home takeout pizza or whatever.
     
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    the part where she is a picky eater is fine. who cares? she eats what she wants.

    the part where she makes you feel bad about eating something she does not like is a HUGE red flag.

    much like you should not care neither should she.
     
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    "I am not going to reduce myself to eating 10-year-old food every night just because that's all you like. If you want to eat Kraft Easy Mac every night, go ahead, but I like sushi and I'm going to eat it sometimes. Deal with it or date someone else, but either way, don't give me shit about it."
     
  16. Drifter87

    Drifter87 Yippi-kay-ay, Motherfucker

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    Sounds like you should move on. Honestly I would not want to be with a person who only ate fast food and quick easy meals.
     
  17. Lucky Penny

    Lucky Penny Mr. cut me some slack cause I don't wanna go back,

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    :rofl::rofl::rofl: Oh come on now Beer, that's quite a stretch. Just because she isn't an adventurous eater doesn't mean that she's incapable of making sounds decisions. And just because she's very specific about her food choices doesn't mean that she's a moron. Food aversions are very difficult to overcome. You have your own aversions from your ocd, but that doesn't automatically qualify you as close minded :dunno:

    Vendetto, there's no reason you shouldn't say something like this to her. IMO, it's fine for her to make her own choices but she shouldn't be judging your food choices too. Have you told her to cut it out? What did she say?

    Btw, don't think you're going to change her. She'll probably be like this for the foreseeable future.
     
  18. GregFarz78

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    picky eater is one thing when she's trying to tell you what to eat time to ditch her, plus you're saving yourself the trouble a few years down the line she'll be the size of a whale from eating fast food all the time
     
  19. eXyle

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    hard to say since she doesn't seem willing to compromise. the picky-eaters i've been with eat what they want, but don't give me a hard time over what i eat. so long as we go somewhere and they have something on the menu for her, we're good. also, for those couple of instances where i want to go somewhere i know she won't enjoy, I go with friends.

    it's kind of odd being with someone who has different tastes in food, but it isn't always a deal breaker and is quite manageable if they're willing to compromise and not change your tastes to fit theirs.
     
  20. NuShooz

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    my SO and I are both picky eaters. What makes it worse is that we're on opposite spectrums. She's a vegetarian and i'm a pretty big meat eater.

    It's been working for 4 years for us though. It's all about compromise. Took us some time, but we eventually found many restaurants that we both agree on. When we cook, she is willing to cook the the meat for me while she substitutes meat with imitation meat (soy based).

    So many times we've had to actually go to 2 different places to get food because we were both craving different things at the time. But, I feel that after all this time, we've both slowly opened up to the other person's tastes. I would go completely vegetarian at times, and while she still doesn't touch meat, she has been willing to try many new Asian cuisines that she would have otherwise ignored if she wasn't with me. It's getting to the point where we're both starting to like each other's food tastes.

    Just be happy you don't have to pay so much for her "simple tastes." I would actually gladly pay for her mac n cheese 5 times a week ;)
     
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    i am a picky eater and my husband loves everything. but i have never once cared if he wanted sushi and brought it home. that just means i can have something else that i love that he doesnt feel like eating. ive gone to sushi places with him and found things that i love to eat so that we can share a meal that we both enjoy when going out.

    your chick doesnt even sound like she wants to try to eat meals with you. not a good sign
     
  22. deusexaethera

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    I think it's perfectly justified for him to get pissed off if she gives him shit about eating food she doesn't like.
     
  23. johan

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    It's not about the food. It's about how couples resolve differences, how they show accomodation and consideration even when they disagree.



    Disagreement is inevitable between two people; how you handle that, whether it drives a permanent wedge, or whether you use those incidents to create greater level of caring about each other -- that is what predicts long term compatibility and happiness.

    If you're with someone who couldn't give a shit about your feelings...and even when you disagree, doesn't give you space to be you....that is not a good sign.



    And we're not talking about something reviled, the OP isn't into stump porn, etc. he talking about simple dietary preferences.

    This is a huge red flag.

    The OP should ask himself, what does this girl like about him?
    Is he valued as a person? Is he respected? Do his choices/preferences count for anything?




    This girl may eventually mature into someone who can sustain a satisfying relationship, instead of just a mostly one-sided deal where she lays down the law, and he caves in.

    But that's quite a ways off.
     
  24. BadKat

    BadKat GIVE ME WINE!!

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    This.
     
  25. teo

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    I agree - picky eater, her problem... forcing her food preferences on you crosses a line.

    Start leaving her at home when you want to go out and eat some good food. Ask her once if she wants to go and if the answer is 'no' and she starts whining then say you'll miss her presence but you're not willing to let her dietary preferences constantly override yours. Things will come to a head quickly, I'm sure.
     

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