how do I "date" again...its only been 6 years

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  1. black jesus

    black jesus OT Supporter

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    So I need to call up my neighbor in the apartment complex after scoring her #. I scored the # a few months ago, but I travel for work so I never called her. I ran into her last weekend and would like to set up a date for this weekend, and I guess I have to call today if its going to work out.

    I don't know much about this chick, so um...what do I need to talk about and how long should the convo last? She a 21 year old college girl who has a daddy to bankroll her. I'm a 26 year old with a real job.

    Thanks, its been nothing but bar-hookups and casual sex for the last 6 years now, so I don't know how to do this anymore.
     
  2. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    You got a real job? Where are you working?

    I don't know about the other stuff but I do know that after you have had sex, which is the after-glow period, be cuddly and affectionate and qualify her on what you like about her.
     
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    I administrate a federal grant program for FEMA region 6. I travel all over the nation enough to fly from Dallas to Napa, stay in a marriott, and rent a car from avis for free for 3 weeks in "points".

    Are you really supposed to be cuddly and affectionate with some chick you don't even know? I mean fuck, I usually just leave...lol.
     
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    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    what u mean "supposed to be"? it feels good because it makes it more emotionally involving. if you don't want that then don't do it
     
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    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    Btw dude... weren't you doing HORRIBLY a while back? And now you have a pretty awesome job?
     
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    yeah. Things were pretty grim for a while. $110k in debt, living out of my car for a couple months, and bumming money from my sister.

    I now have $54k in student loan debt, everything else is gone, bad ass job, incredible physique, bought a toy car and a newer daily driver, got a membership at the local racetrack, and love my job. I've had so much to work on financially, built up a professional reputation in the industry, but haven't had any time or success with women. I bundled up all the desire for a woman into going to the racetrack with my miata and going to the gym 6 days per week, and I think its time to try again.
     
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    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    :bowdown::bowdown::bowdown:
     
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    Yeah, I could have used that $55k I spent on bills and purchased a house by now.

    excuse me while I :wtc:



    anyway, I know I need to call this girl, but do I really need to instigate a conversation...or just have some bullshit excuse to get off the phone quickly because my life is so busy?
     
  9. Guz200sx

    Guz200sx The man who does more than he is paid for will soo

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    Thats good but evidently the problem is much more deeper.
    Your confidence is low and Your "incredible physique" is not up to your standards.
     
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    Ugh. How does this translate to a course of action?
     
  11. Yail Bloor

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    very simple steps:

    1. approach

    2. get her number

    3. plan the date

    4. invite her on the date

    5. the date itself

    Follow the steps. You are at step 3.
     
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    I called the slut last night and apparently she was too busy sucking off the football team to answer the phone. I'm not all butt-hurt or anything, it just reaffirms that I'm supposed to go to the race track, not date.
     
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    the problem is you are focusing on one woman, instead of having several to choose from

    the best way is to spend some time getting numbers. go approach women and get several numbers, say 5 to 10.

    then plan the date.

    call the girl you like the most and invite her. if she flakes or makes an excuse, get off the phone and immediately call the next girl on the list.

    and so on until one of them enthusiastically accepts the date
     
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    I agree 100%.
     
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    :werd:

    this is where the statement "Never bullshit yourself" comes into play

    you have to be honest with yourself at all times
     
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    :rofl: clearly you arn't all butt-hurt. :rofl:
     
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    I'm really not. I'm fucking 26 years old, and been through enough that I don't sweat shit like this. I just didn't want to fuck it all up on the phone because I inferred I was supposed to pretend I had emotion, which I'm incapable of because I'm a cyborg. lol

    I was pissed off when I caught my xgf fucking 3 dude's at a pool party 6 years ago, I'm not today. I just don't know how to deal with your women who have no lives.
     
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    I'm not focusing on one woman, its just the next victim. I travel 100% for business, and I've learned quickly to not get all wrapped up in shit like this.

    Its hard to approach women when you're out of shape, don't own $50k cars, and don't care enough to make up some bullshit story about all my investments and how I lease everything because I'm a poseur. I'm 5'10 / 188lb, I own a 2000 subaru outback and a miata track car, live out of hotels on business, and pay rent at a place that is kinda inexpensive (but has an attatched garage). Women typically are not interested. Besides, when you travel for work and do 65 hour weeks and only care about going to the racetrack, women typically don't give a shit.
     
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    I'm a 31 year old waiter with no money and a 96 maxima and women love me.

    If you don't feel good about yourself, you have no shot.

    You are lying to yourself about being focused on this one woman.

    If you have no other women in your life, how are you NOT focused on her?
     
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    wtf are you talking about? I was bitter like 4 years ago. This is life. Some people are meant to spend it alone, some aren't. I don't know which one I am, but I have enough other stuff in my life to enjoy most days. I won't get emotionally involved until the time is right, which is when I meet a woman who will take her car to the track with me and will join me in the gym. That's a pretty tall order, so I'm not suprised when it doesn't work out.
     
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    So I find one every now and then? I don't have enough time or desire to deal with the logistic or time scheduling to have a cache of women to chase around. I'd rather go home for a week and sit on the couch with my dog, do a couple track days, and vegetate by the pool than jocky for women and play stupid fucking games that I don't have the energy for.
     
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    The subaru is ok, and the miata is bad ass, even more so with the 300+whp turbo build. I don't really like living in hotels, but love the absurd money. I pretty much only do work and the racetrack, so no, I'm not very interesting.

    The only time I really want a woman around is when I desire to go to the tropics for a couple weeks. I don't really want to go a 3rd time alone again.
     
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    oh, and my roommate became engaged a few weeks ago, and made it official last night. That's probably why I really made this thread.
     
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    I don't see any games being advised.

    Meet women IN THE COURSE OF YOUR DAILY LIFE and get their numbers.

    When you have time, plan a date.

    Then start calling girls.

    Very easy and simple and not consuming of time or energy at all.
     
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    I don't say as an insult. more of a wake up call.

    you are an emotional trainwreck. Just reading what you write makes me wince. you need to work on yourself like youve worked on your life.

    same process, identify problems, and work to make them better. You are in are trying to play hardcore denial, but you are oozing self loathing, self pity, bitterness, anger, and desperation. I find it difficult to believe that you are not very conciously aware of this.
     

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