How do I close on chicks?

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  1. j828

    j828 New Member

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    I put this in the Asylum but realized it's probably better suited here.

    I'm an awesome talker. I don't know if I'm either being cocky and thinking girls are attracted to me or they really are attracted to me. Of course I establish this by talking not just assuming every chick in the room wants my cock. But I don't know how to close...either I fear rejection (since I rock @ being accepted) or I don't know. Help me out. My bud's real good at this shit but he's too good and I feel like I can't even compare or have the balls of steel he's got. Thanks for all the help. I'm not even talking about sex. I'm talking about just getting to first base. I've had a home run before but this one chick expected commitment the next day and it scared the living fuck outta me the way she acted. Could this also be another reason? Hrmmmmm....help me out. Much love!
     
  2. Viper

    Viper OT Supporter

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    Yeah, probably one of many reasons. :dunno:

    If you fear the outcome, you'll naturally avoid doing things to lead to that outcome.
     
  3. Diesel66

    Diesel66 My standards for women is like rent-a-centers stan OT Supporter

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    Are you on a date and then failing badly or are you talking about chicks you meet on the street/bar/whatever ?
     
  4. j828

    j828 New Member

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    Wherever, I'm only 18 not really dating in the traditional sense
     
  5. Diesel66

    Diesel66 My standards for women is like rent-a-centers stan OT Supporter

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    make a move. Hand on face usually shows pretty quickly what they want
     
  6. ASoT

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    Here's what I do: intentionally let her catch you staring at her lips, then look up to her eyes while she's busting you.. if done right, you will both give out a little smile.. if she then gets her serious/sexy look on and stares back into your eyes for longer than usual, move in for it..

    nine out of ten times it works 100% percent of the time
     
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    Variation on this:

    Proceed with the lips and eye contact. After eye contact, give her a little wink. Then proceed to whip it out. If this is done right, you will both give out a little smile. If she then gets her serious/sexy look on and stares back into your eyes for longer than usual, slap her in the face, and give a small, confident nod.

    Girls love badasses. Especially ones they can't get.
     
  8. JordanClarkson

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    My friend has the same problem and the last part you mentioned was his issue. He prefers chicks to close the deal so that he doesn't have to feel any responsibility.
     
  9. Bob Brown

    Bob Brown bewshit, bewshit, bewshit

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    or balls.
     
  10. Abomb

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  11. Yail Bloor

    Yail Bloor OT Supporter

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    you are not communicating sexually with her

    the key is non-verbal communication

    its okay to see her as a sexual object that you desire (just don't express this verbally)

    also you have to learn to read her body language and then you will find that she will non-verbally give you the go-ahead to make a move, which will remove almost all chance of rejection
     
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    Yeah, slap her in the face :rofl: that will close the deal.


    But in what situation do you have trouble closing? Is it when you first meet a girl? During/after the first date? By close, I would normally think of a closing to an initial approach.
     
  13. MCohen

    MCohen #NotMyPresident #AmericaIsAlreadyGreat #GoSolar OT Supporter

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    It depends on the girl and her personality. There isn't just one blanket method for all girls.
     
  14. JordanClarkson

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    What do you mean by that?
     
  15. Buck something?

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    which non verbal communications act as indicators
     
  16. BlackIce72

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    where her eyes are looking, proximity, shoulders, hands, breathing patterns, smile/mouth

    there's a whole boat load of subtle indicators that she's ready or wants to be kissed

    if I'm standing with her and it's one of those slow romantic moments I'll just put my left hand on her lower back and bring our hips together, put my thumb and pointer finger on her chin, and say "give me a kiss"

    as you kiss you glide your nails along her jaw line, finally bringing your hand where her the back of her head and neck meet -- it's pretty much the hollywood kiss

    there are certainly times just to GO for it, but a lot of times just say something like "you know, I want to kiss you right now"

    You could use something like Mystery's kiss close but fuck that. Just be honest about it. Chances are, if you're getting to the point where you're wondering if you should try to kiss her, your mind is telling you it IS time.
     
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    IMHO, this is the biggest mistake a guy can make. This is what was holding me back for a very long time.
     
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    word !
     
  19. JordanClarkson

    JordanClarkson OT Supporter

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    For me closing is the easy part. Everything leading up to that is either a trainwreck or rollercoaster.
     
  20. Buck something?

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    Thats whatsup it works
     
  21. ripcurl

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    That is a pretty good move and usuaully does work.

    The close is all about confidence. Rarely is the girl going to make a close and she most likely isn't going to put herself out there to invite a close(in her fear of rejection or "looking dumb").

    Even the best readers cannot tell with 100% accuracy if a girl wants a close made on them so you just have to be confident and do it.

    If you want GOOD closing examples, pick up The Game by Neil Strauss.
     
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    or if you want a shitty book thats a waste of $ pick up the game by neil strauss
     
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    only if you like fiction though
     
  24. ripcurl

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    It's a good read but not to be taken seriously.

    It has alot of examples of opening/closing and if the dude is posting on OT for some help, i think it would be a solid starting point.
     
  25. Abomb

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    yes i understand that your opinion is that its a good read. My opinion is that it sucked donkey balls and there is much better literature out there to read and the book is a complete and utter waste of $$$$$$$.
     

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