How do I break it off with this girl?

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  1. HalfPastGone

    HalfPastGone OT Supporter

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    We've hung out 5 times, had sex each time, including the first night we met. She constantly tells me how glad she is that she met me.

    The first night we met we got a long really well, but there was something off about her.. but i figured she was just kind of nervous. Second date was the same, something a little weird. We kept hanging and having good sex and got a long well.. all along every once in a while she would just say something that was just odd. Every time I saw her I noticed her teeth were slightly purple, and I'm pretty sure she's an alcoholic. The 5th time we hung out it was with my friends on friday, and she got FUCKED UP before anyone was buzzed.. I had to tell her to take it easy, but she kept drinking. My friends noticed something odd about her too.

    Later in the night she ended up telling me that she was raped while in Europe for the Peace Corps by two guys, and they beat her, her mom and sister have multi personality disorder, and that she is on anti depressants and sees a therapist twice a week.

    She is a genuinely sweet girl, and we get along really well, but I just can't deal with that baggage. I think she might be a compulsive liar as well..


    what i do? :sadwavey:
     
  2. HalfPastGone

    HalfPastGone OT Supporter

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    also.. the first night we met, she came home with me and my two guy friends. if a girl got raped by two guys, why the fuck would she go home with 3 dudes?

    everytime we hang out she tells me that she never goes home with guys on the first date.. she's said this about 20 times.
     
  3. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Stop calling her and answering her calls. If after a few weeks she still tries to contact you just tell her straight up you just don't see a relationship working out with the two of you.

    OR

    Tell her right now you just don't feel you can have a relationship outside of sex.
     
  4. HalfPastGone

    HalfPastGone OT Supporter

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    this is the easiest thing to do, but it seems messed up.

    she really likes me and i know wants a future with me, i can't stand to add to her depression :(
     
  5. uneek

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    tell her that the baggage is too much, you have questions about the things she does (going home with 3 strangers after being raped), think she's got a problem with lying, etc.
     
  6. HalfPastGone

    HalfPastGone OT Supporter

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    since we've hung out 5 times, does this need to be in person? :noes:
     
  7. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    God no. You owe this girl nothing.
     
  8. uneek

    uneek OT Supporter

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    huh? I think it's pretty low to just up and cut someone loose like that. especially a person that seems to have some serious issues.
     
  9. Drifter87

    Drifter87 Yippi-kay-ay, Motherfucker

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  10. Ideotique

    Ideotique Drinking on monday nights does not make me an alco

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    Better to do it now than when she gets really attached/clingy.
     
  11. HalfPastGone

    HalfPastGone OT Supporter

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    i know, i'm going to do it soon. if she didn't have these depression issues it wouldn't be this hard.
     
  12. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    She was depressed before you and she'll be depressed after you, but not because of you. The longer you drag this out the worse you'll hurt her.
     
  13. Ideotique

    Ideotique Drinking on monday nights does not make me an alco

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    Once again, spot on.

    You do not have to be there, you did not cause any of this. You do not have to solve it, nor are you responsible for her every action
     
  14. ww_Crimson

    ww_Crimson New Member

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    Pick up your phone right now, call her, and say "Look I know we've been spending quite a bit of time together recently I just think I'm looking for something else and I don't want to string you along and hurt you so I'm telling you now. Sorry, this just isn't for me." You wait till date 6 or 7 or 8 or 9 and it will have been months.. try breaking it off then. I dare you.
     
  15. saltql

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    run for the hills. NAO
     
  16. MP18

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    this, just not returning calls is immature and cowardly (though everyone does it because it's the easiest way, and frankly I have myself)

    it sucks a lot but you need to pick up the phone and spell it out

    you don't owe her anything

    you date so you can find out whether you want to pursue a relationship, most of the time you find out you don't, nothing wrong with that, she'll get over it
     
  17. MP18

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    i've had to do this a couple time in the past month with 2 chicks, sucks :hs: but it's the right thing to do
     
  18. Joshua

    Joshua ambition over everything OT Supporter

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    In for updates that include chick setting ablaze cities and churches.
     
  19. k1ko

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    red flag x infinity. :wavey:
     
  20. King Primate

    King Primate Kill all humans

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    So...why the purple teeth?
     
  21. XaPU!M

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    Purple Drank obviously
     
  22. King Primate

    King Primate Kill all humans

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    Never had it. Is it good?
     
  23. XaPU!M

    XaPU!M Active Member

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    No clue, I only responded because you have a similar AV as me :squint:
     
  24. chica&buddies

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    no. be honest. just call her and tell her, "hey listen... the relationship [or whatever you've called it] is over."
     
  25. Joshua

    Joshua ambition over everything OT Supporter

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    I'd rather lie to her and say an old relationship is reblooming that you don't want to jeopardize than cut her off all together. That is just me. At least she'd understand that and it could be comprehended as less cruel.

    Other side: She gets stoked for the challenge and goes super psycho. In which case, Vaginarium grabs popcorn for threads to follow.
     

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