SRS how can I raise my "social value" perception?

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  1. black jesus

    black jesus OT Supporter

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    I feel like a worthless bitch. There's always someone with more money, better looks, a better car, or a better home that women should want over me. If I'm not the best option in the room, then I don't want to play the game.

    I need to fix this shit.
     
  2. Durka Durka

    Durka Durka Guest

    fix your posture, wear nicer clothes and get a haircut. do something for your outward image. :dunno:
     
  3. black jesus

    black jesus OT Supporter

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    like yesterday. I was at a nice restaurant downtown, and 3 smokin chicks were sitting across from my female roommate and I. Two of the hotties kept looking at me, I was almost ready to get up and walk over to them, but I noticed that another guy at another table had better calves than me. Once I noticed this, I felt like a total bitch, and that the women were going to eat me alive.

    I know this is not normal, but it happens every time. I was talking to a woman a few nights ago at a bar, probably could have locked it up, but then I started thinking about all the Astons, Ferraris, and Lambos in the parking lot, and how embarassed I'd be if the woman found out that I wasn't anything like most of the other guys in the hotel.

    Any thoughts?
     
  4. Durka Durka

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    say you like the miata because it's cute

    never take that subaru shit to a club
     
  5. black jesus

    black jesus OT Supporter

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    My hair looks great, I have excellent posture, and I look fantastic.
     
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    black jesus OT Supporter

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    I don't do clubs. I don't even like going to bars, but its not like a bunch of single women hang out at the natural food market.
     
  7. Durka Durka

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    well yeah, i'm just saying

    make due with what you have. you like it, right? you like yourself, right? that's what people percieve.

    the goal here isn't to make you 'better' some how, but for you to realize you're good enough. make yourself happy about yourself, people see that. it's attractive.
     
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    well, I do like myself, until someone outdoes me at any one thing. I assume that if any person does 1 thing better than me, I'm not worth "it" to any women in the building, and I have to leave and go home.
     
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    :ugh: i don't even know what my boyfriend's calves look like. i can say with complete certainty that NO GIRLS are looking at your calves.

    women are interested in the whole package. there's a reason why every girl doesn't go for the one most attractive guy in the room. people have different preferences about looks and different ideas about what is desirable in a man. simply because some dude with better CALVES is nearby doesn't in any way mean that the women will be less attracted to you.
     
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    Midgetized Don't mess with Douche Cat

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    You really need to see a therapist to deal with all the issues you have :hs:
     
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    Some of the hottest girls I have seen in real life have been with guys that are less than affluent. Confidence in yourself and the ability to not care that you aren't the "best" will make you the best.
     
  12. black jesus

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    what is "confidence" really? Assuming I can do whatever I want, buy whoever I want, bludgeon whoever I want, thinking people will believe my lies?

    I'm so tired of hearing "women want confidence." Even when I thought I could easily lock up a woman, it hasn't played out.
     
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    its none of that..
    you need to find the core values that define you. own up to your own bullshit. everyone has bullshit, EVERYONE. When you face that shit down then show no interest in others bullshit. Thats confidence. To be YOURSELF, without any fear of reprisal. Its not about pissing on things to mark your territory or kicking guys ass. Its ending battles before they start, if you clean your house up, people can't touch you. Women pick up on this stability and "confidence"

    yeah, I know confidence and "being" yourself are thrown around a bit too much. It takes some work to get shit straight.
     
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    like, the idea of myself, or something I can't grasp? Everything and every feeling in the world is perception derrived, and therefor could easily be construed as bullshit. Maybe I should over-analyze more.
     
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    I fucking hear this shit. Just gonna have to see past it. Take a look around at the other guys that you think are "better".. they may be trying even harder than you, take a moment to laugh :rofl:.. then do your thang w/ease.
     
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    To me it should like your making excuses for why you shouldn't do what you want. Your just buying yourself a reason out and you've done it so much it's just habit. Break it and see what happens, you'll be amazed.
     
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    this may seem like a retarded question, and it may be a retarded question, but what are your reasons - why do you want to raise your social value?

    i have a friend who has ridiculous social value, and he goes into a club, and he brings the place to life, and he is out there and flashy as fuck, and in the meanwhile my other friend will go in and pick a hottie up and leave the place with her while my first friend is busy being high value.
     
  18. The Militant

    The Militant THE FUTURE

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    I am the same to an extent. Girls tell me I am attractive and it is not hard to get into conversations and get them interested but I occasionally feel like the richer or better looking guy will win them over me so I give up.

    I somtimes just stop caring and let the other guys do their thing while I do mine, alot of the times they may feel the same way you or I do.
     
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    .... ok
     
  20. Schecter1277

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    Well it's all in your head, and there-in lies the problem. I don't mean to be overly critical, but girls don't like "bad boys" because of some innate desire to reproduce with lawlessness, it's because they have confidence. Guys have it easy, you don't have to look all that good to get a girl, all you have to do is know what they want and have confidence in yourself to give it to them. But if 2 girls are looking at you and you see some random guys calves and back down then that's a problem. No girl is going to want to spend her entire relationship with you reassuring you on every emotional dip you encounter. They find it as annoying as guys do with the "do you think I'm fat" girl.
     
  21. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    MAKE FRIENDS.
     
  22. black jesus

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    because...
     
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    confidence in what? Are they so delusional they believe they're a god, a Shaik, or a pornstar?
     
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    You have many irrational thoughts on which you should work. It's already pretty hard to work on that with a professionnal but on this board it's gonna be almost impossible because you seem intelligent and to analyze these kind of thing pretty rationally : this guy has more stuff than me thus he will win over me because he has cars, ressources, he can impress them, buy them things. Basically he can provide. But that's not how life works unless you get a golddigger. But many you THINK woman ARE golddiggers or something to that extent.

    See, there are probably tens of thoughts which are coherent in your head which support this idea that you need to be wealthy. You have to hit most of them and we can't do that.
     
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    If metal health care were affordable, I'd have a shrink.
     

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