How bad is it that I never talk about myself?

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  1. M.A. Malone Esq.

    M.A. Malone Esq. OT Supporter

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    I've had numerous relationships in which a girls will tell me that they do not know me at all. They tell me that I never talk about myself, and they don't know what's going on in my life. In the same vein, I've gone out with girls and I let them talk and talk and talk. For some of these girls, I won't say two words about myself.

    How bad is this really?

    ..... actually, after typing this out.... my question doesn't really need to be answered. :o

    Discuss amongst yourselves, I guess. :o
     
  2. Midgetized

    Midgetized Don't mess with Douche Cat

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    Are these girls trying to ask you questions and get you to open up and you won't do it? Or is the problem that they don't even try to get you to talk and instead just talk about themselves all the time?

    I don't talk about myself a whole lot either unless someone really shows me that they care and want to hear what I have to say. There's no point in opening up to someone if they are just gonna interrupt you or change the subject back to themselves instead.
     
  3. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    If you ever want a meaningful relationship you're gonna have to open up. While you may think letting girls talk endlessly is what they want obviously they want to get to really know you, and you aren't opening up which makes you seem uninterested.
     
  4. Falconer

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    It can be good because for some reason it creates "mystery" and makes women want to get to know you better.

    It can also be good because someone who always talks about themselves is annoying.

    But it's bad in the long run because it will prevent and/or ruin any sort of long term bond and communication.
     
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    Who really is M.A. Malone Esq.?

    It sounds like you have issues with intimacy... Into-me-I-see

    So... what is going on in your life?
     
  6. Bob Brown

    Bob Brown bewshit, bewshit, bewshit

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    what if he has trust issues?
     
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    do you feel there is little to nothing intersting about yourself and/or the way you view the world?
     
  8. Dargone

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    Yeah, wimins really love it when you open up about yourself. Discuss feelings, etc. I'm an open book and that is the one thing my SO really loves about me.
     
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    That's how I am too, unless they are sharing something with me that I can relate to.
     
  10. M.A. Malone Esq.

    M.A. Malone Esq. OT Supporter

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    I just dont like being the center of attention..... so I think I polarize it by deflecting it all away from me. But there is no question that I have some intimacy issues. As far as trust is concerned.....YES!.....major issues there.....whether its a relationship, friendship, or coworker relationship.......
     
  11. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    :rofl: So basically you know what you have to work on, so do it.
     
  12. M.A. Malone Esq.

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    It's just one of those things you realize when you talk about it aloud. :o
     
  13. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    :hs: That's therapy for ya
     
  14. M.A. Malone Esq.

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    I need to go to therapy, but I'm too stubborn to do so. :hs:

    ....I think I need to go to therapy for my stubborness too. :o

    Classic catch 22 :hs:
     
  15. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    :mamoru: If there is one thing I've learned it's that you have to want to go to therapy for it to actually work. I started recently after telling myself for a long time I was fine and didn't need to go and I feel 1000x better. But I've known people who felt forced and therefore were skeptical and not open to listen, so they didn't do so hot.
     

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