House key

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  1. anomalous

    anomalous New Member

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    Exactly, what does it mean when a guy gives you a key to his place?

    When it isn't a much of a relationship but more of a "thing"?

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    I'm calling it a "thing" since it hardly seems like a mutual relationship.
    I have asked him if we were simply dating or interested in doing a relationship.
    His reply was giving an "I don't know" and simply asking what I was interested in, which is something he does often: interested in my opinion, but hardly sharing his.


    Also, the other part is that he gave me the key to his door, but not the key to the building which is broken and requires for him to go downstairs anyways.
     
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  2. fray

    fray New Member

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    that he wants you to be able to let yourself into the house at 3 am when he's too drunk to drive or answer the door, but wants a "thing"?

    No, but really, you're lacking on details. What is a thing? What's the context?
     
  3. Midgetized

    Midgetized Don't mess with Douche Cat

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    If you aren't in a relationship then it's probably more for convenience than anything. So that he doesn't have to get up and lock the door after you when you leave and stuff like that.
     
  4. BlazinBlazer Guy

    BlazinBlazer Guy Witness to The De-Evolution of Mankind.

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    :werd: This is as clear as mud thus far... I have no clue what to say.
     
  5. ledzep73

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    I don't understand why you would give anyone that you haven't been dating for a good amount of time a key to your house. Thats strange if you ask me.
     
  6. Yail Bloor

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    It means that he wishes for you to have access to his living quarters.
     
  7. Kinks

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    and easier access to his other quarters by the sounds of it
     
  8. antihero

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    honestly, i get what everyone else is saying, but it does mean a bit more then he wants you to have access.

    it definitely does imply that he trust you a fair ammount and forsees whatever you have continueing for a while.
     
  9. dontdothat

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    I second that. Unless he were a complete asshole, as in he's giving you a key for convenient late night booty calls and he's going to ask for it back in a few weeks when he's done. Otherwise he probably sees your "thing" as being solid for what it is and maybe hopes to see it continue and go further. That, that OR he may be looking for someone he can trust... it's a mystery without further details from you.
     
  10. ArthurPewty

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    I'm thinking that it's access to her quarters that is the motivation behind this whole key business.
     
  11. Chris90210

    Chris90210 New Member

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    I would not give a girl to my place until she had a ring on her finger....
     
  12. anomalous

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    We've been talking for about a year and seeing each other since november.
    It's not too long which is why I'm so :ugh: about it.
     
  13. The Secretary

    The Secretary My domestic skills will rock your socks off!

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    I have a key to a friend of mines apartment. It means nothing for us because we are just friends and I just dont go over and let myself in whenever I want. I always call I dont want to walk in him having sex or get shot.
     
  14. ArthurPewty

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    You make it sound as though these events occur with equal regularity in your friend's life.
     
  15. The Secretary

    The Secretary My domestic skills will rock your socks off!

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    He does get alot of sex. The getting shot part doesnt happen but im not going to chance an ex miltary man with a gun and an unexpected house visitor.
     
  16. RoblesGT

    RoblesGT [Track Days: 19 ][Crashes: 1] [SuMo Days: 1 ][Cras OT Supporter

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    what does it mean when a girl gives you that little membership card for a grocery store that goes on a keyring ?? :hsugh:
     
  17. Keir

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    I lend my spare house key to my girlfriends. probably not to a person i'm in a casual relationship with. Part of the motivation behind this is because i'm secretly hoping they'll sneak into my place in the morning and surprise me with oral sex :p
    That reminds me, i should get my spare key back off my ex.
     
  18. LBFilmGuy

    LBFilmGuy LOL why u mad tho?

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    It means he's an idiot
     
  19. lauren

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    he's insecure, and not too smart...
     
  20. Midgetized

    Midgetized Don't mess with Douche Cat

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    I'm surprised that some of you say you wouldn't want to give your girl a key to your place. What is the reason for that? I've never had a problem giving a bf a key to my place :dunno:
     
  21. antihero

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    Huh, when i hit reply, i was sure it was just going to be the most obvious thing in the world, but now im having a hard time verbalizing it.

    :noes: is all i can come up with....

    I think it has to do with private space and control. I need some downtime, and the last thing i want to do is head for home when I want to be alone and find I have surprise company. In addition, you lose that element of control. I really really dislike it when girls make a habit of showing up unannounced.
     
  22. whelen1

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    I gave a key to my place to my girl after only dating 8-9 months.

    I live on the third floor so maybe its a bit of convieninece (sp) so I don't have to walk down 3 flights of stairs, but to her its another step to thinking she is getting a ring. Because now you showed that your comfortable enough with her in general...

    I dunno, I think its a no brainer to give someone a key to your place after an amount of time.
     
  23. anomalous

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    Why do you say that?
     
  24. Midgetized

    Midgetized Don't mess with Douche Cat

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    I've never had either of those things happen after giving a guy a key :dunno: I had an ex make me food once and leave before I got home cause he knew I usually liked to be alone after work. I don't think he was ever there just waiting for me unless I asked him to be. Those have more to do with a person not respecting your space than with giving them a key. I don't like anyone showing up at my place unannounced so my exes would always call/IM me before coming over.
     
  25. lauren

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    it's early, and not something i would do. of course. :rofl:
     

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