hmm..how to approach? v. new girl

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  1. euro_R

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    me and the ex broke up roughly 3 months ago..kinda kept to myself for a while after the breakup, but to cut a long story short i met a new girl on friday..

    now we seem to have hit it off pretty well, she's quite cool..amazing sense of humor..i almost thought she was on OTer at one point :noes:

    we've been talking and texting, couple phone calls and yadda yadda..now she's starting to call me 'babe' and it more or less looks like the beginning of of a relationship..(maybe im overthinking, ive been out of the dating game for a while :rofl:)

    problem is, i dont want a relationship right now, theres definate chemistry between us, i can pretty much see us banging by this weekend :hsugh:, but right now i jus wanna keep her as a good friend or a FWB :o

    how can i go about telling her that im not ready for a relationship yet, or at least hint it to her, without it looking like im using her for anything..i do like her..but i just dont want a relationship yet..
     
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    Just don't bring it up and let things be.

    And don't ever say bang in that sense again. Makes you sound 14.
     
  3. euro_R

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    Yea I was like :ugh: when I read it. Its the only word that came to mind,I'm quite tired..been up for 20+ hours :hs:


    Ty for the advice :o. Time to get some sleep
     
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    really? what do you call it? of all the euphemisms for sex- bang, slam, fuck, poke her guts, bone, bone city, etc- i think the only one that sounds funny is intercourse.
     
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    Depending on the situation, and whether I want to be funny or not..Fucking seems to be the most rounded out choice and what I say the most.

    Saying that you are "Banging" a chick reminds me of the movie "Road Trip" when that guy unfolds that tarp of underwear and asked if he killed a cheetah. "Yeah, I banged her"
     
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    Do guys really keep women around as FWB when they like someone but don't want a relationship yet? Somewhere along the line I think she is going to feel somewhat used whether she tells you or not. Hopefully she likes you enough to keep playing along with this game and doesn't ruin the fun by wanting more. :x:
     
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    wait have you two at least kissed yet?
     
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    no :rofl:

    thats why i think im thinking about this too deep..

    fuck it, ima go with the flow and not say anything and see where it goes :bowdown:
     
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    :rofl:

    friend zone bro
     
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    not getting that vibe :mamoru: i know what the friend zone feels like :o

    we've also had quite a few :naughty: convo's

    edit: if i infact get friendzoned then it wouldnt really matter :mamoru:, only thing id be pissed about is not getting a chance to hit it, which is no big deal really :dunno:
     
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    uh so what the f are you even asking advice for? just ask her out, bam bam thank you.
     
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    Just let it all play out and see how things go. Try to keep it simple and over-analyze it. Once you do, you'll be setting yourself up for something your not ready for. If it comes to the point where things seems to be getting more serious then just be completely honest and say your not ready right now. Better to do that and keep a great friend that you might have a chance with later on then to get into something your not ready for, break up, and ruin a future chance.
     
  13. euro_R

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    indeed, ill be watching this one closely..

    update: tonite we went out to the park, grabbed some ice cream and chatted for a few hours, then...we kissed..alot :o..
     
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    In the course of normal conversation, ever so slightly say:

    "Yeah, I just broke up with a girl a few months ago and definately not ready for anything serious or anything like that."
     
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    go over the top with the "joke" or make it into one. Start calling her honey and tell people you are married.
     
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    i believe it was "Yeah, I boinked her"
     
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    1. you should do something physical with her before you start worrying about any of this stuff.
    2 it's very easy to tell a girl you're not looking for a relationship even after the first time you hook up. just be honest and up-front about it. chances are she'll accept - at least for awhile.
     
  18. euro_R

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    yea thats exactly what happened just in different order..

    we spoke about it tonite, she accepted..actually had a pretty decent convo about relationships and the like..

    then i hit it :o
     

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