So you know my best friend who's being abused by her husband- well he head butted her in the face 3 days ago for not cleaning out their George Forman grill. So i'm the only person who knows how bad this abuse is getting- and I live 4 states away from her. She doesn't want to leave or get help- she feels she should stay and help him. I've been seriously considering telling her aunt and uncle what's been going on. She's closest to them than anyone else in her family. I think someone besides me needs to know- some one who lives closer to her- some one who may have a bit more sway. I dunno. If he hurts her or my God daughter, and I didn't tell anyone...I don't even know... But if I rat her out to her family- there's an excellent chance that she won't talk to me, and probably for a very long time. Which means she no longer has someone she can trust to be on her side. Which is worse? Which is better? If I tell her family- do I tell her I told them? Do I not say anything to them and just keep on trying to encourage her to leave. I'm stuck. Ideas anyone?