hey what is the ideal reaction in a girl when you get soft or can't get it up?

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  1. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    I'm just curious, although maybe this thread would be useful for the ladies here.

    This may seem obvious to the guys but I have seen girls making these mistakes a lot. Consider this a list of shit NOT to say.

    Here are some things that don't work, starting from obvious:

    "What's wrong with you?" This is probably what the guy is thinking anyway, or trying not to think. MORE shame, does not a boner make. "Are you a faggot?"

    "You don't think I'm hot!" = *PRESSURE*

    "You don't have to do this if you don't want to." This is just frustrating. I've had it happen and it wasn't that I didn't want to. It was just ... malfunctioning.

    "It's okay, it happens." Might be good for some guys. Personally I would find it somewhat humiliating.

    The best possible response for me personally would be no response.

    Just ignore it, do not give a shit, keep messing around, be cool, and see what happens.
     
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    "I don't care" and don't stop any sexual momentum or get like serious about it or anything.

    My first sex partner made me cry about it. For real.
     
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    yankeeschick14 New Member

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    if you just keep playing around and completely ignore that area, it will probably come back up in no time. Its the added pressure that makes this more difficult. When the guys are putting enough pressure on themselves in these situations, girls dont need to add more.
     
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    i haven't had it happen yet:noes:, so i couldn't tell you how it feels:dunno:
     
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    The first night my ex stayed over, the first time we had sex, when we were on like round 3 or something it just kinda went soft and I was like "I think I need a break" and she was like "that's ok :) " and gave me a kiss.

    As crazy as my ex was, I give her credit for understanding that sometimes it's just not going to work as expected.

    It's just like sometimes when the chick just isn't going to cum. Or the guy.
     
  7. Falconer

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    Guys, if it happens, just tell her that before she came over you had a practice round and you must not have fully recovered yet. Even if you didn't actually crank one off before hand, at least that's a valid excuse for being soft.
     
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    Coottie BOOMER......SOONER OT Supporter

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    I've only gone soft once....so I didn't stop I just adjusted to finger banging her, moved down and went back to eating her out also. She didn't seem to know or care that I had gone completely limp. After a little while, it came back and I resumed. :)
     
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    Midgetized Don't mess with Douche Cat

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    The best thing for everyone is for the guy to just start fingering/eating out the girl. She's still getting pleased and he gets to recover and take his mind off it until he's ready to go.
     
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    City Don't you know who I am?

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    Only happens when I'm drunk.
     
  11. City

    City Don't you know who I am?

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    And then it happens all the time.
     
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    just as i figured....there is no good reaction. :sad2:
     
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    well it's more psychological than physiological

    so that in and of itself would explain why it's something we'd be emotional about

    normally I'd give the "50,000 years ago if you couldn't keep it up long enough to come..." speech but I think this one speaks for itself
     
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    so just ignore it? how long would you give it? at some point, you have to react one way or the other.
     
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    "Are you okay"? that honestly would be my ideal reaction
     
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    Coottie BOOMER......SOONER OT Supporter

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    Guys here in the Vag tend to put way too much importance on caveman analysis.
     
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    "So, you wanna eat me out for a bit so one of us can still cum?"
     
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    You're right. Your analysis makes so much more sense.

    Oh wait.
     
  19. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    The only times it's ever happened was when my SO was wasted. When it happened I usually just got frustrated (to myself) and just said nothing. I'd stop whatever I was doing and just say "not gonna happen?" and he'd say "yeah..." and that was that :dunno:

    There was once that I got mad, but that's just because I was horny. I never said anything to him because I knew it wasn't his fault. Just turned over grumpy and went to sleep.
     
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    you could laugh about it and pop an aspire.. problem solved
     
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    :werd:

    although i think no reaction is "good"
     
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    i take my cues from the male, and usually will react accordingly to his reaction. for me to have 'no reaction' the male will have to have no reaction.


    and they always have a reaction. it's hard to ignore.
     
  23. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    you would know better than i. somehow i never run into situations where guys are having trouble getting it up for me.
     
  24. Diesel66

    Diesel66 My standards for women is like rent-a-centers stan OT Supporter

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    tripple J is more sesky then lauren :run:


    :mamoru:
     
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