*updates* Hey Vag! Name's Jason, I'll be hanging out for a while EDIT: UPDATES THROUGHOUT - cliffs - took vag's advice, not out of woods yet but much better off Just got dumped, here's the cliffs. She's 20, i'm 26 She left her parents at 18 to come to NYC to join broadway We've dated a little over 2 years (This next part is in the past 4 days): She put us on a break cause I was stressed out about her wanting to go out and party more (i was snapping at her cause i resented her decision). She got WASTED and slept with one of her coworkers. I put us on a break (last night). She finally figured out that as much as she loves me she loves her dream more and needs to grow as a person before we can be together (about 3 hours ago). She dumps me (about 2 hours ago). /cliffs She's determined 100% that i'm the one for her but she needs to run around a bit to experience all the wrong so she can then enjoy the right. I fully understand cause I did the same thing a few years ago. I told her she's the only person in my life I ever want to be close with again, and we're going to get back together sometime in the future (who knows when that will be). shitty part is we live together, with my little sister (23 years old). and rent is going to be very difficult to make without her. I'm not "waiting for her" in the sense that I'm not going to live my own life, but I'm not going to forget about her either, nor am i going to be mad at her for doing what she needs to do to make her life feel complete - i was there once too... I'm pretty fucked up and I need friends, already contacted and told 3 people the story, a coworker, a friend, and my sister. I'm going to keep as busy as possible in the next couple months and I don't know if I'm going to see my ex at all. How am I taking it so far? Any mistakes in the process? This isn't my first terrible breakup, I know what I need to do and I think I'm a pretty mature person. ----------Update--------- Saw someone in the vag the other day update a thread he had written I've a year ago (I think) and I've got some pretty relevant updates to my story. *clears throat* Ladies and gentlemen, I'm fucking stupid. She came over my place about a week after she moved out the happiest I've seen her in a while, she said she had slept with the same coworker again (this time she wasn't drunk) and she stopped it 2 mins in and said she wanted nothing but me for the rest of her life. I let her move back in after her 3 month lease was up, we had been spending almost every day together having amazing make-up sex and trying to work through the issues. Our current lease was up so we moved into a cheaper place up town and made it our happy little home. I took the next 6 months to fully forgive her for what she did, I've been happy ever since. Fast forward to about a month ago, she's doing 2 shows (theatre major), plus working 3 nights at a bar and a full class schedule at school - I'm busy with my own shit, we never see each other. She starts getting distant again, tells me she has a crush on someone and she's scared, I wave it off saying that it happens from time to time. The crush goes away 2 weeks later for no reason other than it dies down (the guy was just some dude she'd see walking the dog in the park, they never even had a conversation, it was completely visual). A month passes, she's even more busy and now she can't hide how distant she feels. Now she's worries that it won't go away once we start spending more time together at the end of the semester. She feels like I'm being a bit overbearing (I was a tad, I was scared and holding on a bit too tight) so she freaks out and starts yelling about how "you don't own me." ok fine, she's right, we have to be our own people in order to be happy. So during the day we don't talk or text and just hang when we both get home after work (which ends up being for about half an hour or so each night). Things appeared to be getting better, for about 2 days. Then last night she says to me, "I want to be a bartender in a hash bar in Amsterdam." Let me translate - "I want to be free to experience life on my own and not have you at home to worry about or worry about getting hurt." We talk for about 10 mins and she says even if she stopped being so busy and the love came back, she's always want to go to amsterdam. Meaning: it's over for good and I'll always come back to this conclusion until I actually get to do it. So here I am sharing an apartment with a person that refuses to leave even though my name is on the lease with my parents as cosigners (her name not on it at all), and she has nose surgery in January and she's on my insurance - already has the date picked out. I am pretty broke and can't get my own place, she's equally as broke but wants a girlfriend of hers to move in with her. I told her if she can get me and my parents off the lease then she can do whatever. My parents live 1.5 hours north by train and my job Is in midtown (Manhatten). I go to school 3 days a week in the city, work 5 days and I'm doing my first degree with the Freemasons tomorrow night. The timing is terrible. I'm absolutely devistated but I should have seen it coming. Worst part is I don't blame her cause being confused about what she wanted isn't her fault if she didn't even know herself. Have fun with that OT, I'm all ears.