Here are a couple of things that I have learned about communicating with the opposite sex. In communication, one person has visual images in their mind of what they want to communicate. They auditorily try to express those images. The other person receives the auditory and then visual images appear in their mind. There are several places that breakdown can occur. I have found that in most cases the visual pictures are not the same. They are formed from your past experiences and everyone has different experiences. This breakdown sometimes occurs when people feel that their love is not being reciprocated. The thing is that we all have ways in which we want love to be shown to us. Just because we do not see what we want does not mean that the other person does not love us. It may just be that the other person does not know how we want our love to be shown. This isn't something that can just be picked up on. This is something that you must search for within yourself and once you figure out how like to see love and appreciation communicated to you, you then must explain this to the other person. To make a relationship work, one must not push the buttons that cause adverse reactions in the other person and one must try to show love and appreciation in a way that the other person finds pleasing. One must also work on self awareness and emotional intelligence so that if their partner does push buttons that spark an adverse reaction then that person will be better equipped at handling the situation and put a stop to conflict before it starts. It's taken me three marriages to figure this out. Yes, I'm a hard learner.