Here you will tell me everything I need to know about how to be self confident

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  1. Falconer

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    Just as thread title says.
     
  2. Falconer

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    Wow how'd this thread get here? ;)
     
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    accomplishing goals you set for yourself so you know you can accomplish what you want and get what you want.
     
  4. A Cow

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    not a clue how to phrase this but..

    just know that as long as your happy your better than everyone whos not and if they say shit about you its because they are scared that your going to take there gf.. ( true story )
     
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    confidence comes from within; not from what others tell you

    my two cents
     
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    lifting weights. looking good is feeling good
     
  7. iwishyouwerebeer

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    Well I know a lot of my self confidence stems from not giving a shit about what other people think about me...This is the same thing I tell you all the time because you unfortunately take way too much stock into what other people might think of you.
     
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    do you have the ability/means to live your life generally the way you want it?

    Are you happy with your life?

    Things I've found that helped my confidence a lot: having my own place, a full time job that I like, living in an area with access to people and a variety of things to do.
     
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    see usertext
     
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    Internal locus of control
    Thats all you need
     
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    Become honest with where you're at (ex: can't talk to girls)
    Set reasonable goals (say "hi" to 5 girls tonight)
    Accomplish goals
    Feel good about this
    Re evaluate where you're at, repeat.

    This ONLY works if you have an internal locus of control. What you're doing is judging external stuff by YOUR criteria, and thats the key

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    Slowly train yourself to make the right decisions. If you are unconfident, you will pussy out of a lot of stuff. When you feel that happening, push forward and listen to what your ideal self wants to do. While its unfamiliar, the answer is alreday with you
     
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    What works for me is..
    go for unattractive girls,
    work on that then and try and move up the ranks to the top notch girls.
    I lost my game after being with my GF for so long, now i have to start from scratch again.
     
  13. Yail Bloor

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    love yourself

    truly accept that you are worth as much as anyone else and you have every right to live your life without apology

    respect is earned, not given

    and the more you know who you are and what you are about, the easier all this is
     
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    Do things a confident person would do, and then slowly become calibrated and congruent with it.
     
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    Live in a state of constant self improvement. You can never reach a plateau in your quest for betterment.
     
  16. Yail Bloor

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    You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, 'I have lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.' You must do the thing you think you cannot do.—Eleanor Roosevelt
     
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    Someone told me this piece of advice long ago: Act like you belong.

    But don't be a douchebag.
     

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