Her Mom Hates Me

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  1. Ten Yard Fight

    Ten Yard Fight New Member

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    This girl that I really like and have gone out with twice, and who i could see myself with for a while, her mom hates me.

    it stems from a fight i got into where this guy (ill use his name to make it simpler to follow) Mark hit his girlfriend, so the 2 guys i was with and I were pretty heated when we found out and went looking for him. I didnt know Mark but i knew his girlfriend for a few days (i know thats not a lot but hitting a girl is probably the one thing i hate most) so we find him outside of his house and he was closer to me so i run at him and kick him off of his bike then the other 2 guys jump on him from behind and try and talk with him but he freaks out and so it went 1v1 with mark and one of my friends.

    same night a brick gets thrown at the girl i likes moms car.
    her son is marks best friend and so he tells her about what we did to mark.
    she thinks it was us that fucked up her car and even though she has never met me, seen me, or even heard of me before the incident, she absolutely hates me now.

    this is the first time anyones parents have even disliked me. The girl I like still talks to me goes out with me etc against her moms will, but it just sucks i feel like if we get to being close (which i hope happens) it would have to be a secret atleast from her mom. Her mom is in her words her best friend and i know its going to be hard without her support.


    what does everyone think, I wouldnt even know how to approach her mom, since she freaks out if she finds out i even talked to the girl. I know if I could talk to her one on one she'd realise im not a bad kid but i can't even talk to her.. any ideas suggestions on how to get close to her mom or if i should even keep trying with this girl?
     
  2. Ten Yard Fight

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    we are both 19 by the way and in college.
     
  3. RockChick

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    wow, great way to deal with that kinda situation... :ugh2:
    i'm not saying i support hitting women (i absolutely do not) but dude... you and your friends seem to have a lot of growing up to do...

    as to the mom... either try to talk to her now or let it settle down a bit and then talk to her... i dunno.
    was it one of your friends who fucked up her car?
     
  4. Ten Yard Fight

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    growing up has nothing to do with what we did to that kid.

    in 50 years if i see a guy hitting a girl, i'll beat him with my mother fucken walker and oxygen tank. Hitting girls is never okay, she is like 5'1" and he is around 6' there is no match there, so yes we took it out on the kid, he's a fucken loser drug addict, what would you have had us do, sit him down and talk to him?? now I completely regret what i did because of the problems it caused, but in the same situation would i do it again, hell yeah.

    yes i know who fucked up her car. is he my friend, no.

    EDIT: it has been 3 weeks since the incident and her mom is still upset, its not like this happened yesterday or anything.
     
  5. RockChick

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    well, I would be upset too if someone fucked up my car because of something my son's friend did to his gf... go figure.

    in regards to being immature... well, in the end its you guys that will get in trouble for all that. police doesnt give a shit if that guy beat up his gf... YOU beat HIM up, that's all that matters if that mark guy would decide to sue you or whatever.
    what you can do in cases like that... call the police or whoever is responsible for cases like that. make that gf report it to the police.
    i understand your feelings but as i've said, you might end up paying for it.
     
  6. Ten Yard Fight

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    the 2 incidents had nothing to do with eachother.

    the kid who did it to her car doesnt like her son, i wasnt part of damaging her car at all.

    this thread isnt about the incident, if i wanted to talk about it i'd post in OT and get a buncha guys saying way to go, i came here for advice on her mom ..


    EDIT: and to add without any marks on her face theres no evidence he hit her so calling the police would be pointless. we didnt find out until after the fact anyways. the kid was hospitalised for a few days so a police report was taken and the other 2 kids as well as his girlfriend are wanted for questioning (atleast according to mark). since he doesnt know me im fine.
     
  7. purplebeast

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    Talk to her. Tell her you know she dislikes u and u know why. Explain the whole story to her.

    She may not believe, she may still not like u, but at the very least she may respect u for havignt he balls to go talk to her.
     
  8. quid

    quid I Piss Excellence OT Supporter

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    EDiTING BECAUSE I HAD ORDER OF EVENTS WRONG

    if you come to people asking for "advice" you should take it at face value because thats what they think about your situation, not tell them they are wrong.

    guy hits girlfriend.... edit: you puch him off his bike.... your friend gets in a tiff with him.... a random person (that you wont name, but you know who) throws brick at your girlfriends car.... her mom hates you.

    what went wrong there..... its this part..... you push him off his bike
    had that step not been there EDIT: your name wouldnt be floating around at all, her mom wouldnt hate you.

    as much as now you are so obviously the bigger man because you EDIT: and your buddies taught him a lesson, its still immature, and the sole reason this is happening. dont try to rationalize what you did, dont make it that other guys fault. had you just gotten the girl out of the situation instead of beating his ass to teach him a lesson your current situation would be much better im sure.

    and everyone else is right, no one cares why you do anything, he sues you for kicking his ass, what are you going to tell the judge...
    "oh well he hit his girlfriend"
    JUDGE "what does that have to do with you"
    "i believe you cant hit women"
    JUDGE "and"
    "......."
    JUDGE "what did HE do to YOU to provoke this"
    "he hit his girlfri...."
    JUDGE "what did HE do yo YOU"
     
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  9. RockChick

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    you kinda get it wrong... beating up people in a way that they have to be hospitalised isnt "cool" or "fun" and it doesnt make you a better person. in fact you are not better than mark...

    and i honestly think you are screwed if mommy finds out you were there when they beat up this guy... why?
    cos you hit guys, who can say if you wouldn't hit her precious baby.

    don't give me that bullshit... as far as i know there are things police doesnt like at all... child molestors and guys who hit women are just a few of them.


    but yeah, we wanna talk about mommy... so anyone?
     
  10. Cerridwen

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    Thread sounds pretty childish. sorry.
    That said though, my mother in law HATED me when I first started dating her son. It just got worse,to the point of her disowning him (although not permanently- they reconciled). It took dealing with the situation in a mature manner for us to become friends (or her to become civil to me). As our relationship stands now, she is closer to me than my own mother is.
    Anything is possible when you deal with it as an adult.
     
  11. PuppyCat

    PuppyCat O.T. Mom

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    Violence never solved anything.
    Talk to her Mom...be honest.
    If the Mother doesn't like you, she doesn't like you, accept it. You're not going out with her...you're going out with her daughter, although it would be nice if the Mother could at least tolerate you.
     
  12. RedVsBlue

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    You sound like the typical high school loser that fails in life. Her mom knows that and doesnt want that shit around her daughter.

    You arent going to say anything to her to change her mind. Instead why not try showing her that you are a mature person and won't start childish bullshit involving her daughter.

    You are both young, and I know at 19 you think you know alot. Well you dont, and her mom has probably been through enough to see right through anything you do or say...so don't be fake at all. Grow up and show that you are someone her daughter should be with, if you dont know how to do that on your own, then nothing anyone can say here will change that.

    BTW, I understand your anger, men who hit women at all deserve castration...but in this country vigilante justice is looked poorly upon.
     
  13. quid

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    fact of the matter is: her mom has never met you, and can now tie you into the group where one of you threw a brick at the car....

    it doesnt matter who did anything

    him,you,me,someone else, her little brother, god, brad pitt. your name is in the list that is the problem. what got your name on the list, being an immature bully at a party. the sooner you realize that, the sooner you can either make things better or move on.

    if he were your friend would it change the situation..... no
    the simple fact that your name is now associated with his is getting you in this problem.


    btw: whose fixing moms car?
     
  14. Ten Yard Fight

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    the people that gave me advice thanks and am considering it. but some of you either didnt read what i wrote completely or are confused by what i said.

    this wasnt some being an immature bully at a party, I'm straight edge and I dont party. This is the first fight i've been a part of in quite a while, yes i acted poorly I admit it, but like i said i would do it again if he hit her again. It wasn't planned to hospitalize the guy, he broke his hand when he hit the kid he went 1v1 with in the head. Now I admit I have anger issue's, im usually quite calm and deal with a lot, but when something pushes me over the edge (happens like once a year) everything is released and i get a lil crazy, this was me going over the edge.


    mark didnt throw a brick at the girls moms car.. the girls lil bro is marks best friend.

    basically i understand where her mother is coming from, and if I really was a bad kid I'd check it off as a loss and move on, but like i said, im completely drug free, i dont even drink caffeine, havent been in a fight besides this one since freshman year in high school and generally am respected. I live on my own, go to school full time and have pretty good morals.

    I dont boast about what I did, im not proud that it happened, you guys are making it out like i think im a champ for fighting him.



    I'm going to try and meet her mom soon, or call her and discuss it, however i dont know how to do this without making her daughter look like a liar by saying she wasnt hanging out with me. Its just gonna take some time i guess, hopefully she will see how much i care for her daughter.
     
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    Her mom knows i was there and kicked the kid off his bike
     
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    that is the problem
     
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    Her mother feels the same way you did about Mark. You knew nothing about Mark, just that he hit his gf. She knows nothing about you except that she thinks you SUPPOSEDLY threw a brick at her car...Think about how you reacted and try to talk to her about it in a way that would change your mind also.
     
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    shut up. you made no sense in your last posts and you make no sense now. you have a severe lack of reading comprehension.
     
  19. Ten Yard Fight

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    thats reasonable. and makes sense, but should i focus on convincing her i didnt damage her car or the fact that im not a bad kid.
     
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    Not being able to control your actions is generally thought of as immature...

    You and your friends jumped some 'druggie' in an unfair fight and think this was the right thing to do? No wonder the mum doesn't want anything to do with you, seems you got a lot of growing up to do.

    With regards to your problem, I generally think the truth works best.
     
  21. Ten Yard Fight

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    who said i didnt control my actions? I dont understand where you are going with that one.

    1, we didnt jump him, he was riding and i kicked him off his bike, we tried talking to him after i knocked him off of his bike. there were no blows thrown or anything, simply asking him what he was thinking etc, but he threw a blow and so one of the guys fought him one on one. I've been jumped by 3 guys before and trust me this was a LOT different than that. (granted me getting jumped was in 9th grade and due to extensive martial arts training i was able to defend myself). Like I said, i understand how her mother thinks that me doing this to the kid isnt good behavior, but she's not mad about that shes mad because she thinks i damaged her vehicle.
    And like I said I live on my own, go to school full time, dont drink smoke or do drugs, and generall have a pretty healthy life style, hitting girls is something that pisses me off more than anything, and something i do not stand for, if it was my decision he would have had his dick removed, this will always be my point of view and so "growing up" wont have anything to do with this.

    and your advice, if you could even call it that is worthless..


    why has this forum gone from a place where people could come for problems and get away from the bullshit of OT, but its not any better here, everyone thinks they are better than the next person, and has to prove how immature everyone else is.. its quite bullshit, answer a fucken question thats asked dont analyze the shit out of details that dont even apply to the question. I gave a little back story so everyone could understand and judge accordingly, not to hear shit about it and how immature I am.
     
  22. RedVsBlue

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    :rofl: Yep, you are nothing but a typical immature teen. You sound more like 15 than 19. When a bunch of people tell you the same thing, and all you think is "I am right, you all are full of shit"...that should tell you something right there.

    I doubt your relationship will last long anyways, so I wouldnt worry about the monther. Soon the girl you are dating will mature on her own, and she will leave your sorry, and apparently ignorant ass behind.
     
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    yeah man... the truth hurts, doesnt it?! we all know that... but your major problem is that you think you did the right thing (btw it wasn't)... and imo the only reason you call everyone on here an idiot and say we are not helping you at all is cos no one actually said "hey man, great job beating up that jerk"...

    grow up, realise you made a bigass mistake (oh wait you might have already realised that)... and for christs sake, stop writing about beating up people and sounding proud of it at the same time *shudders*

    edit: you could always tell mommy who fucked up her car, maybe she'll love you then... :mamoru:
     
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    quid I Piss Excellence OT Supporter

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    i have more experience with this exact situation than you will ever understand.

    people calling you immature are right.
    no one cares that you dont even drink caffeine.
    no one cares about your matrial arts experience.
    no one cares about previous fights.
    your adding more complication to your own problem.

    if your such a great guy, then it shouldnt be that difficult to make her mom see that. but if you go up to her mom and explain that you like to take care of shit heads that beat up women because of your martial arts training, i doubt it will work out well.

    if you say, im terribly sorry about your car, mark hit his girlfriend at a party, me and a few buddies tried to talk to him, he ran, i pushed him off his bike (which i shouldnt have done) he swung at my buddy, they faught for a few mins, and the rest is history. i should have just gotten his girlfriend out of the situation, i realize that, you cant change the past.

    dont try to convince her what a great guy you are, if you are she will see it. i personally think this "relationship" is turning into more work than its worth, and your too young.... smarter and hotter girls should be comming around the corner any second now.

    also if this kid was on a bike, and is this girl's little brother's age... how old is he? doesn't look good to parents when you beat on youngens.
     
  25. quid

    quid I Piss Excellence OT Supporter

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    you need to go around and read some of the advice these very same people have given other people. a lot of it is extreamly insightful. people need to know the back story to get an idea of who you are. if everyone here comes up with the same answers, odds are they are right. but you may be right too, none of us know you and you may just be comming off badly.

    and a lot of people have answered your question. you just needed to make sure everyone understood that you are mature because you muscle around little kids that hit their girlfriends, and dont drink caffeine. thats where the confusion and answers you didnt want to hear came from.

    just because you dont like the answer, doesnt make it wrong.
    no one on here is being "holier than thou". the fact that you argue with the answers people give to your question is one indication of immaturity.
     

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