her best friend is a long-term ex.... thoughts?

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  1. Athlete218

    Athlete218 New Member

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    what do you guys think of this situation.. ive been hanging out w/ this girl, we get along great, great sexual chemistry etc.. however, her best friend is the guy she was w/ for a long time. is this a bad idea? too much baggage?
     
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    Fucker out of the fast lane, bitches

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    how old is everyone involved?
     
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    How long ago did they date?
     
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    My best friend is my ex, I don't think it's a big deal. If the friendship can work without the romantic aspect why throw it away? :dunno:
     
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    I agree with you but it still puts a huge hamper on the third party. I wouldn't be OK with them going out and having a few drinks or going to a movie or dinner etc..unless I was with them.

    Call me nuts.
     
  7. Athlete218

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    5 yrs & some odd months
     
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    I think the way you feel is probably normal. I'm hoping that my situation with my ex never becomes an issue but I'll deal with it when I get there. I already know that I would never throw my friendship with my ex away.
     
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    that's a long time, and a person is very different at age 25 than at age 20.
    i wouldn't worry.
     
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    I'm best friends with my Ex. We hang out all the time. I will admit, some of my girlfriends are uneasy about it, especially since we dated for 2.5 years, but then they see how we are around each other and are usually fine with it.

    Helps that she swings both ways and is exploring the other side a bit more since we broke up.
     
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    i'm probably the wrong person to ask since my best friend is my ex and that "friendship" has ruined pretty much every relationship i've been in since we broke up. :dunno:

    i'd definitely be in favor of giving her the benefit of the doubt though, especially if she and her ex are open to you guys all hanging out together, so you can feel comfortable with the guy.
     
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    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Why did they break up?
     
  13. Athlete218

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    i think it was more or less he was too focused on job & didnt give her any time.
     
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    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Hmm, and when you say they are "best friends" does this mean they hang out alone constantly, etc. etc? And She's given you the "oh there's nothing there anymore..." speech?
     
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    Has fail written all over it. :dunno:
     
  16. Athlete218

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    i think it's more they have the same friends & go out to bars etc.. but i cant say w/ 100% certainty. they may hang out alone? like i said, we just started talking.
     
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    I just checked your IP. You're not wolfsky, but, oddly enough, you ARE Yail Bloor. Interesting.
     
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    Damn, now I look like a stark raving lunatic. :mamoru:
     
  19. iwishyouwerebeer

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    :uh: I posted in the wrong thread. Calm down AE police :uh:
     
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    i just fucking around homey
     
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    my ex that I was with for 2 years is one of my best friends. I'd say it's been about 50/50 with the girls I've been with since..half of them couldn't stand it, and the more confident, secure ones didn't give a shit.
     
  22. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Oh, well I wouldn't worry about it until you've been dating for a while and get to know her and the situation better :dunno:
     
  23. Fucker

    Fucker out of the fast lane, bitches

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    innocent until proven guilty. trouble is if you go in distrusting her it's going to end badly no matter what, so if you proceed do so all the way or not at all.
     
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    Midgetized Don't mess with Douche Cat

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    but he has time to be her best friend? sounds a little fishy. i could understand if she said that they just didn't have good chemistry together or something like that but this is a situation where she would probably still have feelings for him

    is she one of those girls that's like "omg this person is my best friend and this person and this person..."? if they just see each other because they have common friends then that's a lot different than actually being best friends
     
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    No fucking way I'd date someone who is best friends with an ex. I've done it before and it's not worth the trouble.
     

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