Help with lost sex drive

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  1. The Assassin

    The Assassin New Member

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    im newly going out with a girl

    Shes by far the most fucking beautiful thing in the world
    im completely amazed how ive ended up with her

    but therein lies a problem

    i have absolutely no sex drive myself
    I just want to sit and talk to her
    cuddling all that good stuff

    and its not just her
    i was just testing myself and porn cant even get my attention

    im only 17 and ive never had this trouble before in my life

    what the hells wrong with me
    and what can i do about it

    i really need help asap as im seeing her tomorow
     
  2. Werdna

    Werdna Livin' the SLO Life...

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    maybe you're just in a non-horny phase of life...ive found that sex drive kinda comes in cycles...just don't force it
     
  3. The Assassin

    The Assassin New Member

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    i dunno
    its just weird
    it started like right as we started goin steady like immeadiatly
     
  4. dloseke

    dloseke Noobish Silver Member

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    goin' steady...haven't heard that for a while....

    any chance you want to build an actualy relatioship with her that's not based on sex?
     
  5. The Assassin

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    Yeah but it seems like she really wants it
    basically the relationship is going amazingly well thus far

    and oh god i said going steady.... :eek4:
     
  6. giapia

    giapia Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you re

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    so you're not feeling it, but are you still giving it to her at least? oral, fingering, etc? :o
     
  7. The Assassin

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    yeah im doin that
    i just want to make her happy

    im sure my drive and blood pressure will be up within a few days i hope
     
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    get some blood work and check to see if your test levels are within normal range
     
  9. The Assassin

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    i had no problems til like yesterday though and no insurance regardless
     
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    Get more sleep, eat properly, excercise 20 minutes a day, don't smoke, don't do drugs, all that crap.

    Seriously.
     
  11. The Assassin

    The Assassin New Member

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    Luckily I have never done a drug in my life so far

    my sleep has been kinda fucked
    and ive barely eaten anything in the past 4 or 5 days

    being with hers kinda shocked my whole body

    thanks for the advice i never really thought about it that way
     
  12. parfaite3

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    maybe you actually like her more than just because she's beautiful. maybe she's the most beautiful thing youve ever seen because, not only is she actually physically beautiful, but you enjoy her company and personality so much that it makes her that much more beautiful to you. the porn probably isn't working b/c you've found someone who you care a lot about, and not just about having sex with her. girls love to cuddle and just talk and know that a guy is with us for more than just what we look like or for what's between our legs. it could just be that you don't need to have sex to have a good time with her, and that's an awesome thing. your sex drive will come back eventually, and then you'll be able to add that much more to your relationship that will already be based on how much you care about each other.
     
  13. The Assassin

    The Assassin New Member

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    Yeah
    we cuddled all night the first time we hung out haha

    i think thats it
    because although shes incredibly beautiful
    she is Equally as Great if not a Better Person

    So Just Time and try to fix my eating and sleep schedule a tad?
     
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    That AND give yourself a break.

    You are so stressed about getting it up... that you are stopping yourself, getting it up.
     
  15. The Assassin

    The Assassin New Member

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    ok so i'll just relax....
     
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    chlywly Active Member

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    Sexual drive/Libido can come and go, its really dependant on hormone levels being produced, and thats largely dependant on your thinking process, your stress levels, what you take into your body (food) etc :) I say don't worry about it, enjoy yourself and get some fresh air, eat right... Find something which interests you (creativity) and it will come back in no time.
     
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    yeah exactly. it'll be even better than it would be if you didn't just let it happen on its own. and congrats on finding such a great girl!
     
  18. The Assassin

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    Hey thanks guys very much!!

    Just curious but what foods would be good to eat?
     
  19. CelesteLeSonne

    CelesteLeSonne DEWmocracy

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    stress can kill yr libido
     
  20. The Assassin

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    good stress is still stress right?
     
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    Fruits and veggies, of course, and protien like beef, chicken, and fish. The basics. Stay away from soda and fast food, since it's all sugar for the most part. It gives you a quick burst of energy but then you lag afterwards.

    Of course, if you drink soda within about 8 hours of bed time you're screwed, so generally I don't recommend drinking soda after lunch time.

    Wheat bread is better than white bread, as is brown rice better than white rice.

    You might want to check out the book/website Body for Life www.BodyForLife.com as they have some good diet advice - and work out advice.
     
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    1.exercise.
    2.avoid stress.
    3.eat right.
    4.sleep ~8 hrs each night.
     
  23. Werdna

    Werdna Livin' the SLO Life...

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    physiologically, yes
     

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