My ex, whose is a very good friend of mine now and I care very much about has one problem after my two years of knowing her. She seems very unable to accept what she has and be happy with it. She seems to think that every night that she can just sleep and wake up the next day and it will be fine. Which works for the temporary, but in the long run I fear that it will catch up to her and she will live a sad life and think that sleeping will fix it, when she needs to stand up and face her problems. I'm almost scared because she confides soley in me. I'm pretty sure there are no other people in her life that she confides in and it scares me to think I have so much power and influence on her. Anyway her mother recently threatened to put their dog to sleep, when in fact they encourage it's playful biting. Anyway her mom is an alcholic and the dog bit her playfully and she told her daughter she was going to put it to sleep. BTW this is a deaf dog that is rather childish and funny to see. My ex also picked this dog out from the humane society because it was going to be put to sleep. She went and got this dog when she was little to replace her recently dieing dog spike. This died when she was 10 or so. I'm wondering what I can do to help her stand up and face her fears. Challenge life for what it is instead of crying herself to sleep. I listen to her when she calls with her problems and try to help her, but she ends up at the end saying I just wanna goto sleep. To me I'm left like wtf why would you just quit, but I respect her and let her get her sleep, something she values most in life. EDIT: she is still having problems and basically just threw down how she wants to end it all IE suicide and that crap. Either way I made her promise that I get to see her tommarrow which sounds lame, but whatever it takes. Thanks OT.