SRS Help With GF..

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  1. Jazzyb

    Jazzyb New Member

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    I have a girlfreind who i asked out like 2 weeks ago via text (is that bad?) anyway she agreed to be my girlfreind and we started going out she used to speak to me a lot on msn and occasinally text, we usually see movies together but we always have akward silneces in convos and never know what to say one time we walked all the way down to the cinema without saying a word!, i think thats because were both shy and cant really express our feelings to each other and i dont know what to do!.

    well anyway last time we properly saw each other was valetines day as i asked her out to cinema with a couple of mates with there gf's, i wanted to do somthing like reach out to hold her hand or put arm over her in cinema but i was too scared! i know..i shouldnt be but its hard..for me, well after cinema i walked her to her stop and there was just a big silence till her bus came i got the courage to put 1 hand on her shoulder and say see you tmorrow (which we had collage the next day) i could see a smile on her face as i did that and i thought things are moving! slowly but moving..the next day she didnt show up in collage and i msged her when i got home saying why wasnt you in she said she overslept then i msged that i miss her (a big step for me thats never normally a thing i say to anyone) and she msged back 'yer i missed you 2' i text back saying what happened in the day and we had a great convo seemed like it was all going well and i felt more confident to speak to her. i asked if she was coming in the next day and she said yea.

    Next day she wasnt in and i couldnt think straight i thought i must have done somthing wrong or there could be another reason..later on i was with one of her freinds from the course and overheard him saying he wanted to a see a film with her tmorrow (this freind is a guy and was like the first person to speak to her on the course, ppl asked if they were going out and she would always say no as she was not attracted to him and he is kind of weird but funny he has a gayish personality.' anyway i thought if i text her about not being in i would of sounded annoying but i wanted her to text me saying why she wasnt in..none of this happened so i texted her later on just saying 'hey, whats up?'
    i didnt get a reply..the next day she wasnt in again and i was thinking about her too much but also wondering why she didnt reply to my text i was thinking it must have been credit problems or somthing just to sort the mind so i could think stright i ended up texting her asking what she was doing tonight..no replys..half way though the day she comes in down the corridor and spots me as im walking to toliet and she smiles so i smile back she says 'hi' and i say 'your late' lol, bad move? anyway i walk ahead to the toilet and have a long think on why she didnt answer my text etc etc and what i was doing i was scared of talkin to her as i thought i would of been annoying when i went back into class i didnt say a word to her.

    When it was dinner time we walked down again i didnt speak to her i just spoke to other mates then she met the guy who was saying about the cinema that night and she was speaking to him and walked off ahead, i felt frustrated and i didnt know what to do, i wanted to say somthing to her but didnt want to bug her..annoy her or just sound like an idiot we all ended up playoing around some pool tables i was playing with my bessy mate from the class and she played doubles with some other guys with jane another girl from class gets along with eveyone, she then approches me and jack and mentions somthing about that game which i wasnt listenin to carefully i asked if she wanted a doubles she said yea, but then ended up walking back to collage with jane and that gayish guy, well probably coz she couldnt find a partner or coz we was late whatever she could of said somthing right?.

    Back in class i dont say anything at all to her...and 5 mins to end of lesson she askes me about reserch i dont knw what she ment and she handed me some reaserch notes... i thought i could speak to her then but again i didnt! i just said thanks with a puzzled look on my face..end of lesson now and shes standing there waiting i was thinking is she waiting for me? obv were going out shes my gf... and i was waiting on a mate just to get his work we walk out and that gaysih guy is there me and mate walk on and turn around to see they've gone back in the room so we wait...she comes out to ask if i was waiting for her i said yea..she said 'im going cinema with ryan' (the gayish guy), so i said ok...i felt gutted and like such an idiot...couldnt take it anymore i wanted to know if she liked me or not so i sent a text saying 'hey, if you dont like me you dont have to go out with me, just say so i wont mind i just want to know.' got a reply 'No dont be like that i think your great!, i just made plans with ryan coz i aint spent time with him in ages! we still on 4 2night? xxx'...first time i got kisses from her in a text as normally i think shes too shy..' i felt relived but not... relived that she didnt say she didnt like me but not relived coz 'she aint spent time with him in ages!' i text back saying 'its not that im glad your sticking to plans, it just seems like your dodging me' (which was a blatent lie i wasnt glad i was jealous as hell), she text back saying she wasnt doging me and that i was just paraniod and asked if the party i said was going on tonight was still happening, i said no party was on wensday but might be going out tonight ill be in city centre if you want to come text me, she said ok! but he sister has invited her out so she doesnt know what shes doing yet but if she goes with her im more the welcome to come. I thought then well she just screwed my plans but its all good its her family so nothing bad...least it isnt ryan but i didnt reply to the text and ive been out with mates but couldnt enjoy myself due to thinkin about her too much and im waiting for her to sent me a text!

    am i being stupid? or is there somthing that you guys thinks wrong! help me out guys...i dont know what to do its fucking me up bad..
     
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  2. Silvertone

    Silvertone New Member

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    How long have you two been going out? oh yeah like two weeks.
    I wouldnt get worried. if ure worried so early on in the relationship... dont be. She said yes to being ur g/f for a reason, she likes you dude. Calm down.
     
  3. Digital_angel

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    you are putting way to much thought into this. Its only been like the 2 weeks that you have been boyfriend and girlfriend. This is just the time to get to know each other.
     
  4. Vailripper

    Vailripper Daywalkers have feelings too.

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    That is the longest sentence ever.

    It seems a little early to really be calling eachother boyfriend and girlfriend, from the sounds of things you aren't even talking face to face. I would focus more on trying to actually engage her more, it sounds like you are starting to do stuff (go to the movies), but then just kind of sit there and leave. Should be more communication imo...
     
  5. ChrisOT

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    Magnum, your holding the ball explanation was interesting.
    It's what happened to me last night with this girl, it happened before aswell.
    Thing is i've known her for over a year and I understand sometimes she's just generally feeling too shitty to talk (msn/rl).

    But when I try explain to her exactly how I felt about it (as you explained), she feels hurt and insulted. It's like catch 22.
    We said to each other we'd be open and honest and talk about everything(and i mean everything), we have. It's made us understand each other better, respect and trust has gone through the roof.

    But sometimes she's like that, 'ok' 'yeah' 'heh' 'hmmm'. I try make new conversations.
    If I say it's hard having a conversation with her like that she gets hurt.
    If I tell her what she's doing she gets hurt.
    If I try say..plan something, say i'll do something, say something nice... it doesn't get returned.

    There is no escaping!
    Maybe I should make my own thread, but I feel it's too early to start writing up about these things.

    I guess it's just having a long distance relationship that hurts most... mmm at least we're meeting next week after a 2+month gap.
     
  6. Jazzyb

    Jazzyb New Member

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    well i tried ringing her today with no answer, then i sent a text asking if she is free tmorrow still waiting for a reply i said text back when your not busy, i feel i can be more open to her now, but its not gonna work if i cant contact her tbh.

    that convo thing you were on about with the dead ends well it sorted goes both ways sometimes she can end the convo and im the one always trying to carry it on.
     
  7. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    How he feels? How he feels is that he has a crush on her. He can say that if he wants to but big deal, she can get that much already from his initial interest.

    It's sweet that he said he missed her (unlike what Poco will probably suggest, which is that it's desperate), but it's weird to try to win someone over by explaining that you like them. How is that a convincing argument? "Yeah, I like you, so ... you know. Now you will like me too."

    Find a moment and kiss her. Sometimes it is easier to do if she's not expecting it, and the surprise is a turn-on in itself. Then go from there. Do whatever you feel comfortable with after that point. Try things, see what works, and remember you have nothing to lose from actions, only from inactions.
     
  8. PuppyCat

    PuppyCat O.T. Mom

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    Well said.:bowdown:
     

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