help, sex is getting borring

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  1. Ok, i think my wife looks great. she thinks that she is a fat ass. Every time i get her something sexy, she says no way im not wearing that. If i am going down on her,, it takes forever, because she says that she is thinking" His tongue is probably tired and he doesnt really wanna do this" so it distracts her. Plus we have always used vibrators as added fun while doing it, works great. I make her cum 2 times befor we are done every time, but i guess cummin aint everything for them. We watch a lot of porn, i got over 300gigs, maybe that is what killed it for us. nothing new to try. Every time i try a new position,, she doesnt want to because she thinks she is too much of a fat ass to try. i get so tired of her sayin that..."you cant wanna have sex with a fat ass like me" allllll the time
     
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    That really sucks that she's so insecure and has low libido.

    All I would really do if i were you is try to build up the security. Always comment on how beautiful she looks, how much you want her, how much she means to you. :hs:
     
  3. fab_tone

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    hit on her and flirt with her ALL the time!
     
  4. Mici

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    Whenever you are doing shit with her, caress her entire body and ALWAYS compliment it...tell her what you love most about her body, and if she starts putting herself down, stop her before she starts....
     
  5. shady5

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    DUH anyone will feel fat after watching 300 gigs of beautiful people... you just need to tell her how you wouldnt have it anyother way... probably add some more flowery words to make it sound sincere, but u know, you got the idea
     
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    I feel the same way---like my b/f always tells me that I look good in shit but I feel SOO fat in them. I have REALLY low self esteem and have the worst body issues. He gets tired of hearing it all the time. Sex has been so boring with us lately because I have not really wanted to do anything. I feel like whatever position we are in, like if I am on top or something, that I am squishing him. I have seen the porn that he looks at and shit and those girls are just so perfect. I know that most girls are not like that. I like to watch porn and shit too...I don't know....
     
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    god i'm such an asshole for saying this, but i thought it was kind of a funny musing. delete all your beautiful thin person porn and just download 300 gigs of fat women porn. that way, she'll think you're into big chicks. so regardless of her size she'll feel desired.



    on a serious note i'm sure your wife is beautiful and clearly has some self body image issues. positive reinforcement is the way to go as many people have pointed out. also see if you can find the source (maybe it's that 300 gig of porn) that's making her feel fat. maybe she has retarded girlfriends who tell her her ass is too big or something.
     
  8. lmao, actually, i do mostly have big girl porn. i like big girls. Hell we even had a 3som with a really big girl.If i wrap my arms around her, shes like,,, ew your grabbing my fat roll, n shit like that
     
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    open and shut case johnson.
     
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    Why dont you try working out w/ her? like running or jogging. Then just lie and say "wow, youre body is looking even more amazing."

    Obviously there is a problem so fix it?
     
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    i think the compliments will do....you gotta be sincere...always hit on her from time to time...OK...one day pretend you are very tired and uninterested in everything...turn on the fucking tv...hated things at work...(i'm helping you to imagine the situation)....when she walks up to u and ask u....whats wrong honey....then you turn and look at her....with your eyes open like WOW....then kiss her...and just say "thanks baby"...she would probably wonder (if she aint smart)..."why say thanks?" then tell her...u have just made my day...bingo
     
  12. Join a gym with her.

    Get her a personal trainer.

    Make her feel better about herself, but encourage her nicely to do these things.

    Say things like "Look, I love how you look and I have no problems with who you are, but you seem to think you need to make changes, so I would like to help you make those changes. Let's join a gym together, or I can get you a personal trainer? We can make it fun and something to do together?"

    There is nothing wrong with your sexlife, there is something wrong with her personal self image.

    Fix it.
     
  13. Read my post above this, you need to make changes to like yourself more.

    Chances are you are beautiful to him, but are too self conscious for your own good.

    Stop bitching about it, DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT.
     
  14. invrnrv

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    tell her 1) shes not fat 2) her judgement makes you feel bad because it imples that she thinks you might be so shallow... 3) her natural body smell, personality, facial figure, etc are much too hypnotizing for you to notice even if she were a fatty (make it sound funny) and 4) if she still feels so insecure she should excercise just to boost her own self esteem, and you'd like to be her jog partner because you could use the excercise too.

    good luck.
     
  15. Vegasoutkast

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    add very shy and that describes my wife - she breaks out of her shell for short periods and then goes right back in.


    it sucks that after 12yrs she still is like this but I love the women to death and even though I get extremly frustrated I keep hoping one day she will awaken :hs:
     
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    Get her drunk.
     

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