Help Me Please!!!!!!!!

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  1. moriahb

    moriahb New Member

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    ok, so ive been having sex with my guy for quite a while now and im hardly ever able to get off/cum. its not that he isnt good, he is the BEST ive ever had. WHATS MY PROBLEM????:noes: someone has told me that a girl has to LEARN to cum, except... how do you do that???? has anyone else had this problem??? can anyone help me out....its almost like he feels self conscious if he doesnt get me off everytime..... i just dont know what to do.........

    any help would be much appreciated
     
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    Zemo n00b of the year

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    First off, how old are you? Women reach their sexual peak around age 28...until then, you're still learning your body, and learning about the feelings your having.

    That being said, most women can't cum from intercourse alone. Most need direct clitoral stimulation, some can cum from vaginal stimulation (if they've learned how, aka, learning what feelings to expect, and learning to enjoy the feelings without thinking about them), and very very few can come from merely intercourse.

    You might try finding some sexual positions that would increase the pressure and motion on your clitoris, either from his pubic bone or others. Also, certain positions improve the angle of penetration, in order to more directly stimulate the g-spot. If there's a position that will allow his hands to be free, ask him to stimulate your clitoris during sex. That can work wonders.

    In the end, if you can't cum from intercourse, it's not a huge problem, and is actualy fairly common. Just learn to enjoy the feelings. And if there's anything that he could be doing better, tell him. you know your body and your reactions better than he does.

    Hope this helps.
     
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    JustaMeThang New Member

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    I cant cum from vaginal sex. I can squirt, but its a totally different feelin. Most of the time, I'll just rub my clit while my BF fucks me, then Im able to cum. Suggestion? Hmm, buy a pocket rocket, try incorporatin that into bedroom play and enjoy whatever comes your way :)
     
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    its not just a problem during intercourse, it doesnt even happen during oral......, weve tried using toys and vibrators. im 20 yearls old.
     
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    Zemo n00b of the year

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    Then he needs to learn a thing or two about what to do, and what not to do, and you need to learn a thing or two about your body.

    Can YOU get yourself off? Find out what kind of stimulation works best for you, and be very vocal with him. Tell him exactly what he needs to do to get you off.

    A big part of it is learning to relax. You need to not TRY to have an orgasm, just enjoy the feelings. If an orgasm comes, so be it. If not, so be it.

    Relax, be patient, know your body, and tell him what he needs to be doing.
     
  6. Have you ever tried using one of those shower nozzles
     
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    Does he get you all excited or just go at it lotta time that will make or break it.
     
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    Maybe this guy can help ya out

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    Just kidding. Try everything yourself first to learn how. Masturbate with fingers, showerhead, dry hump your foot. Hee hee. Seriously though, try anything and everything, watch porn, read porn, eat better, work out, buy sexy outfits, blah blah blah.
     
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    Zemo n00b of the year

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    Personally, I'd reccomend staying away from the toys and tools at first. Don't be shy about exploring yourself. It's your body, your feelings, you should know it inside and out. Set aside some time, when you can be alone. Start out with a nice relaxing bath, maybe do the whole cliche candles and everything. Make sure you're warm, happy, and relaxed. then, as the mood strikes, start to explore a little. Let your hands do all the walking, and make a mental map of each curve and contour, and how each bit feels. Bit by bit you'll discover what works for you, and what doesn't. It's not gonna happen over night, it takes time to really learn what makes you tick, but it's worth it.
     

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